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writes:In a nutshell, my junior year of high school I had an intense "crush" on my English teacher. My senior year I didn't have him as a teacher but we still talked every day. Towards the end of the year things seemed weird between us. He was upset a lot of the time and didn't talk to me as long or often, he was basically avoiding me. It turned out that he had developed feelings for me and was disgusted with himself. We didn't talk about this again until graduation. We decided to keep in touch and not pursue anything until I was 18, and we've been together since. I'm terrified to bring our relationship out into the open, and have yet to tell a soul. He's asked me to marry him and has been very supportive of me and my education, He thinks it's time to tell our families. He's 27 and I'm 18. How am I supposed to tell my parents that? How do I tell them how I met him? I would risk anything for him but I want my family to be supportive of us. I need advice on how to go about this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your comments. I didn't expect feedback this quick and supportive. I think it will be a lot easier to tell his parents first. He wants us to confront each others' families together, but I feel it would be better if we told our families alone. There would definitely be less tension that way. He is as headstrong as they come, so hopefully my calmness will compliment that.
I really appreciate everyone's advice.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (14 March 2010):
 You will need to let your parents know about your actual situations in your life. Pick a suitable time to talk to them.
Be prepared for their shock but if you are firm and persistence, you will win them over to your side.
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reader, kayla20  +, writes (14 March 2010):
 tell your family you need to talk to them sit them down and be very adult about it.tell them that you need them to be supportive of you and your decisions in life whether they turn out to be mistakes or not and that although they wont be happy you have found yourself in love with your old teacher and nothing has happened until you turnt 18.they will be very shocked and angry as they probably wont believe that nothing had happened until you turnt 18, they may think he is too old and that your only 18 and should be having fun not getting married you should be meeting boys your own age.you have to remember that this is your decision and however much they dont like it your sticking to it but i wouldnt guarantee that they will be supportive at the start or even at all but you wont know until you try
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (14 March 2010):
You just have to come clean. There's not easy way to do it. You just have to sit down and tell your parents. Pick the easier of the two, and talk to them about it.
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