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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months and we love each other very much. He is 20 years older than me and because of this I think he is embarrassed to bring me around his family. I'm pretty sure they don't even know he has a girlfriend. Mine on the other hand have not yet met him (his choice) but know about him and his age and are okay with it. Anyway I'm pregnant and I'm terrified to tell him because I think he's gonna freak. I know there's really no easy way of telling him and I obviously have to tell him so is there any way I could tell him like easily? Thank you in advance!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 February 2011):
 Ok first off just remember that no matter what happens you have a family there to support you. At least they have accepted him and thats good.
It sounds to me very suspitious that he has not told any of his family, even though some people frown upon a age difference it shouldnt matter if you love the person. I think if he truely loved you he would be proud to show you off. However I honestly dont think he saw this as a long term thing if he is keeping you a secret. Also could it be possible that he is married or have you been to his place?
There is no easy way out of telling someone news like this, but just remember the pregnancy is not your fault completely. It takes both of you to create a child therefore he cant get angry at you as it was just as much as his fault as well.
Just stay calm and tell him about it soon, as if you are stressing about this it can cause damage to your unborn child. Therefore tell him as soon as you can. Just meet up with him and sit down and talk to him. It wont be easy but the more time he has to prepare before the birth the better. Just tell him you have something important to tell him and just say that you are pregnant, yes it is scary but you will feel a huge relief once you have said it.
Just take the conversation from there then and see how you both feel about things. Goodluck hun and all the best with you child.
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reader, ashley187 +, writes (9 February 2011):
 LOL no matter how you say it.. it's still going to be the same thing. I'm pregnant. I'm sure this isn't ideal for you, because it seems like your relationship is in a bit of an awkward place.. neither of you have met each others families. Regardless he needs to own up to it like a man, there's always that risk when you sleep together and you both know that. He can't be that suprised. Now you need to start thinking about your future and your baby's future. And if you plan on staying together; regardless of him being embarassed or uncomfortable-- you need to spend time with your families TOGETHER. Good luck. Hope everything works out.
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