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writes:I'm 19 and my girlfriend is 18... we met last September and have been on and off since. When we first got together I wasn't into her as much as she was into me although I was into her a lot; I tried to stop myself falling in love because I wasn't sure whether to trust her. My trust issues affected my behaviour and I flirted on the internet and even in person but never crossed 'the line'. After 2 petty break ups, we got back together but 6 weeks ago we split up after I accidently called her her best friend's name when I was drunk and she also found flirty conversations between me and another girl. She ended it...I realised what I'd lost and did everything to get her back and promised I'd change and proove she could trust me etc. Since then I've been the best I could possibly be...I hardly talk to other females anymore, I send her cute texts, tell her I love her, make an effort to see her as much as possible, do everything I can to make her happy.. BUT ... she's now taking me for granted big time! Me being nice and cute is making her less attracted to me and the spark has kinda gone after 5/6 months. We both love each other and even talk about how we could see each other staying together until we started thinking about marriage and kids in the future but I don't know what to do!How do I get the right balance between being a norse and being a good boyfriend? How do I keep her attracted, excited and into me? It's driving me crazy!
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reader, Mud. +, writes (8 March 2009):
Mud. is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks people...
I think your right I need to be myself more, at the end of the day that's why she fell in love with me in the first place!
I played hard to get for a few days n' I wouldn't say she came 'running back' but it had an effect as she was asking me to stop the night and come see her etc.
Thanks for the advice. Much appreciated
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reader, philipgifts  +, writes (6 March 2009):
 I believe every relationship diserves work.from both partys.Plan(A)I think first less text to her,and when she says hay why havent you texted me all day,say that you've been bizzy.Play hard to get,maybe it will get her atention.Do it every other day for three days in all,just one of many ideas.
Plan(b)You could also tell her that you cant see her as much, b/c your schedwel has gotten more hectic,but you'd have to make an excuse for that.Made up a second job,or if your in collage your work has becme over wellming papers,books, what ever.
Plan(c)You could tell her I'm not going to be this way any more with the over texts,niceness,I'm not going to be any one els but me,its rouning our relationship,your liking me less and less,its b/c I'm acting like some one I'm not and its not even working and your taking to much advantage of me,I've allowed this,but not no more.Or you can change back automatically.
You can use any of these ideas and all will have an impact.I would go Plan C only b/c thats what it will lead up to,in story at this point,is where the story changes its the climex point,right before everything falls into place.Like the role of the dice in the air waiting for the conclusion.this can end good or bad.
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reader, LilWun23 +, writes (6 March 2009):
if she wasnt acting like this in the begining of the relationship, she is definetly punishing you for what you did to her.just give her some time yet not apart, and be a the best boyfriend you can possibly be, keep reminding her of how much it is that you love her and how important she is to your life and that you dont want to lose her again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2009): Instead of 'acting' like anything maybe you should just be yourself. It sound like you have been playing a few different parts in this relationship instead of just being the real you. Dont let anything affect your behavior. If you are in love with her then just show her, no need to go over the top with it. And above all communicate with her. Tell her that you think things are different and you want to get to the bottom of it before it causes problems. She will probably have alot of respect for the fact that you are taking the initiative to improve your relationship. Good Luck.
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