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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (4 November 2010):
Currently I'm 21 and would still consider myself "changing." I learn new things every day and become a little different and more mature all the time. Things I would have considered good for me a year ago definitely were not in my best interest.The thing about age is that you always consider yourself to be at your wisest, no matter how young you are. At 16 I thought I knew everything. At 18 I realized my 16 year old self was an idiot. At 21 I realized my 18 year old self was an idiot. And the cycle continues.Its something that not only requires a lot of thought, but a strong loving relationship. If you think you have one, don't jump into things. If the relationship is just as strong in 5 years, then you'll know for certain that marriage is a right thing for you.
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reader, syrop  +, writes (4 November 2010):
Age can be One of the factor to be considered before marrying.the ideal age i think is 24 for a girl. this is because :-1. by that you shall finished your education. 2. You would enjoyed Your life to the maximum.3. You Would be mature enough to see with whom You want to marry and whether he is the ideal boy.4. You will be both Mentally and Physically prepared for a marriage.5. And the MOST important of all why i personally don't think that marrying after 24 years or + would be wrong is because see once you are married. You will like begin to start a new life afresh with your hubby. Now You will need atleast 3-4 years to spend with your husband and this shall be the most beautiful days of Your life. Only After that it Would be a nice decision to think about CHILDREN. assume you will 28-29 years when you will be pregnant and it is the ideal age for someone to be a mother and You won't face any difficulties in conceiving nor any complications. IN all, you can now say you have live your life fully6. LAst one, 24 years is a mature age whereby you can whereby you can handle marriage matter no matter what come up.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (4 November 2010):
 25+ I think. Or after you have finished your education.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (4 November 2010):
 While age is a factor, I dont think it is the most important thing to think about when deciding to get married.
Read this question as a start - to me this is the typical situation (from a male perspective) that will almost always occur in 99% of young married couples:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/since-i-married-other-women-seem-more-attractive.html
As I said in my answer to this guy, There is a reason why people should not get married before they go to college and University, and that is because during those years that is when a person changes the most and finds out who they really are, and what they want from life. Before you go to college, all you have ever known is the town/city you are from, and the small number of people you have met in that place. Girlfriends/boyfriends are almost always from school. It is such a narrow little world that you exist in pre-college, of course you will be happy because you know nothing else.
But then when you get to college/Uni, suddenly the whole world is open to you. There are people of all different ages, races, social situaitons etc, suddenly you have the chance to expand your own world by surrounding yourself with people who are all so very different to what you have grown up with. And that in itself is intoxicating - at college you can be whatever you want to be, even an entirely new person because these are people that have never met you and have no judgement towards you.
But as I said before, there are other factors that you need to consider before deciding to get married. Like:
1. How long have you been together? Really you should not think about marriage until you have been together for at least 2 years because you need to really know that person inside out and be sure you are totally compatible
2. How stable is the relationship? Do you split up frequently? Or has it all been happy and plain sailing? Generally if you are on and off again frequently then you are not meant to be together and a marriage would not work
3. Are you both mentally and emotionally ready to committ to each other for life? Are you ready to think seriously about spending the rest of your lives together, never kissing another person, never even going on another date again.
4. Are you both certain that you are right for each other and are compatible? Do you have lots in common and make each other happy?
I think if you are sure that person is the one, you are emotionally and mentally ready for a massive committment, have been together 2+ years and have a happy, stable relationship then that would indicate you are ready to get married. If you dont have ALL of these things, then you are not at all ready.
As for an age range for marriage - I would always mantain 22+. This is basically when you are mature, have settled into a career or finished college and have direction in your life, and you will have grown together if you have stayed together through your teenage years. THis is very important - through your teens you change so much you need to see if you grow together, rather than grow apart as a couple.
These are some divorce stats:
Age at marriage for those who divorce in the United States
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Age Women Men
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Under 20 years old 27.6% 11.7%
20 to 24 years old 36.6% 38.8%
25 to 29 years old 16.4% 22.3%
30 to 34 years old 8.5% 11.6%
35 to 39 years old 5.1% 6.5%
As you can see, for women, it is very high in the under 20's and 20-24, which would then suggest 25+ is the right age to get married.
For men there is not such a clear split, but men between 20 & 29 seem to have the highest divorce rates. So this actually reflects quote well in society - girls go out with men that are older than them (normally by 2-10 years) so if the girl gets married at 25+ and the guy is very late 20's/early 30's when he gets married, then they have a good chance of staying together. But the stats for the other combinations are not so good!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (4 November 2010):
 After you have established yourself in this world with a career. I say after you're done with school and have a stable income..which would put you at 22+
Do remember marriage isn't a cake walk, it requires some work...Oh and weddings aren't that cheap unless your daddy pays for it all, you elope or get hitched in the courthouse. You have a lot more bills, yours + his + mortgage + living expenses = a lot of $.
But once you the right one, then it's all well worth it, I'm just warning you about the aftermath.
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