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writes:Okay, the last 4/5 weekends I've been hanging out with the guys and become quite friendly with one of them, he has a girlfriend. He has asked if I would like to go out for a meal with him and a couple of drinks. Its not a date but what I want to know is..Is it wrong to go out for food and drinks with a guy who is in a relationship, even if it is just as friends?
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (3 April 2012):
 This is a date, or at least his way to see how far you'll go. If I was you I'd stay away. Why do you want to go?
I could be wrong but you agreeing to go out with him only means trouble for you. Whether it's wrong or right, you're bound to get hurt.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (3 April 2012):
 Just make sure his girlfriend is ok with it. Maybe you could meet her first before spending time with him. That way you are showing her that you can be trusted. In all honesty though his gf is not really your concern she should trust her bf to have friends and you should be able to trust him that he would not do something to upset his gf. I spend time with other girls other then my gf, tell her about it and there are no problems. You do have the right to have friends of the opposite sex as does she and there is no reason why the couple must always be together for you to see him as a friend.
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (2 April 2012):
 Tell him you'd enjoy it - IF (and by implication ONLY if) his girlfriend is present.
Otherwise, forget it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2012): A meal and a couple of drinks just the two of you is date, make no mistake OP. I mean come on OP, how many guys and girls your age go to dinner then drinks on their own "just as friends" when they've only recently gotten to know each other?
He asked you out on a date.
OP if you were his girlfriend how would you feel about him organizing a one-on-one "friend" date with a girl he's only recently gotten to know?
If you really were sure this wasn't a date then there'd be no problem would there? I sure as hell wouldn't be comfortable with my girlfriend asking guys out for one-on-ones including alcohol to "get to know them better" even if she did claim it was "just as friends".
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reader, Lucky786 +, writes (2 April 2012):
 If you were his girlfriend how would you feel?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (2 April 2012):
 I agree... see in my book cheating is anything ANYTHING you can't won't or don't tell your partner.
is he telling his GF he's having dinner with you?
if no... why not?
if no then I would NOT have dinner with him without her knowledge....
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (2 April 2012):
 Does his girlfriend know? Ask him.
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