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writes: "I look nothing like the girls from Sex and the City" "My body isn't even close to the bodies in the magazines" "My boobs are too small" "My boobs are too big" "I have a ghetto booty" "I have no butt" "I have stretch marks" "I have an ugly scar" Any of these sound familiar? I'm sure at one point in your life, you have looked in the mirror and thought one of these phrases or something very similar. It doesn't matter how beautiful you are, you still focus on that "chink" in your armor. It's a fatal flaw that is overwhelming and destroys your self esteem. Every time you look at yourself in the mirror, or want to get close to a guy, your "huge defect" comes to mind. This hits girls a lot more then guys because women are constantly comparing themselves to other women. But instead of being depressed about your body, and wishing you had the body of someone else, there are a couple things you need to realize. The first thing you need to realize is: There is no such thing as a perfect body. There is no one in the world that is completely happy with their body. Everyone would like to change something about their body, whether big or small. You would think that super models have the easy life, not having to worry about their bodies. But even super models are very self conscious, and many even more self conscious then normal women, about their bodies. They are constantly worrying about their bodies, and even they wish they could change things about them. So there might be parts of your body that you wish were more like a supermodel, but there might be parts of a super models body that she wishes was more like yours. There is a reason that there is no such thing as a perfect body. You have heard that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and that statement is truer then you realize. What might be the perfect body to one person, might be unattractive to another person. So before you start hating your small boobs, or your big butt, realize that every person has their own tastes, likes and dislikes. For example, read these quotes made by real men in an MSN article. --------------------- “Why I love women’s bodies” By Christine M. CoppaTall, short, plump or petite, one thing is universal—no matter what a woman’s shape, there’s a man out there who’ll appreciate it! To prove our point, listen to what these guys have to say, and feel your confidence soar… no matter what your body type. The pleasure of plus “My wife is plus-size — and it’s a plus in every aspect of the word — especially when it comes to spooning.” – Anthony Abruccio, 39, Brooklyn, NY Stay strong“I like muscles! My girl’s arms are cut, toned and sexy—and I love when she wraps ’em around me.” – Carl Steir, 31, Clifton, NJ Boyish bodies rock!“I’m not lusting after the classic Playboy centerfold. My girlfriend is a 32A, and I love when she goes braless—especially in a clingy tank-top.” – Dan Cooke, 24, Asotin, WA Muscles, schmuscles…“My girl’s middle is soft and luscious and every time she complains about it, I hug her belly. I love that part of her body best—it’s so womanly.” – Roger Abrams, 31, Browning, MO Short and sweet“Everyone thinks tall models are so glamorous, but my fiancée is just five feet tall. It’s so adorable when she stands on her tippy-toes to kiss me.” – Josh Cooper, 29, New York, NY On the lean and narrow“I’ve dated women of all shapes, sizes and races. I’m engaged to a tomboy with narrow hips and pin-thin legs. It’s all good!” – Josh Wood, 31, Houston, TX When thin isn’t in“I used to date a dieter. She obsessed over everything she ate and was depressed every single time she looked in the mirror. My new girlfriend loves to eat and bake. She’s not thin or heavy. She’s healthy, and I’m happy!” – Matt Magino, 29, Brick, NJ Bathing beauty“I met my current girlfriend last summer. She’s plus-size, but was romping around on the beach in a bikini. There was something very confident and free in the way she moved. She didn’t cover up or hide anything, and there was this fresh air about her that I really fell for.” – Anthony Douglas, 28, Mission Viejo, CA -------------------- So as you can see, each guy has their own tastes. Before you decide to go get plastic surgery, take some time to realize that what you might see as negative about your body is actually a turn on for many guys. Don't be so self conscious about certain parts of your body. Understand that you are a lot harder on yourself then anyone will ever be, and that no one is going to focus on it like you will. And realize that you're not going to be attractive to every single guy in the world, because every guy is different. Even the most beautiful girl in the world isn't going to be attractive to every guy. You don't need to be attractive to every single guy, you just need to be attractive to one good one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2008): I think this is so true lol. im really pretty until i stress out about things, and that is were i get insucure. i start thinking about the fact the im stort, but i relized thanks to my boyfriend, that made me relized that my boobs, even though kindof small,they look great cuz im so small in general, they are perfect. my stomach is flat and i consider it perfect. my butt is small, but my bf says that my butt is perfect for my small body, so i guess guys look around are flaws, or they see the good.
either way i think that if a guy loves you ladies, he wont care of your body!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2008): What can I say, it's brilliant.. I wish more woman could realise that we dislike our bodies and compare ourselves with other women, but men don't care at all... We are each and everyone of us as beautiful as we want to be, not matter what shape we are...
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2008): i love it, and its soo true. i used to hate my body (ok, still do) but i dont obsess about the way i look, im pretty active and have something going on most of the time so i get quite a lot of exercise. tbh i dont really care what i eat, i'd much rather eat what i like and gain a few pounds than cut out all my fav food and get stick thin.i'm forever hearing from my friends how unhappy they are with their bodies although theres nothing wrong with them, which made me realise i should be happy with my body the way it is, and although im not completely happy with it i'm learning to love myself just the way i am - and really everyone out there who isnt happy with the way they look, face it, how can you expect someone else to love you if you cant love yourself.i should probably shut up lol, i'm blabbering on...again well done on the article!
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reader, vamp-gal  +, writes (4 December 2008):
 Heyy,
This is an awesome article, seriously, not joking!!
Women of all ages complain about how they look, it mainly starts from teenage years.
This article show's the truth about women, and how they feel, and how they should be happy with who they are, and not wish they were different, because, everyone is unique.
I really LOVED this article.
Awesome!!!!
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (4 December 2008):
 Oh my I'm going to copy paste n stick this on my wall, I don't think I've ever heard a fella say these things..In those words are you real, YOU'VE GOT MY RAITING HUNNY WOW!!!!!!!Im actually stuck for words good job Ive only got to type n not talk LOL!!!!:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2008): Nice article - and so true.
Every woman has something extremely attractive about her - and it doesn't always come down to body shape or length. There's nothing so true as the statement that beauty comes from within. A smiling face is more beautiful than a sour one, and a sense of humour is also a must in my list of attributes that make a woman attractive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2008): What an article!I hope you wouldn't mind if I paste a link to your article when we get questions on attractiveness.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (4 December 2008):
 Five stars to you, Ben! Ladies, pay attention here. He's onto something.
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