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writes:I've asked this question before, but didn't go into a lot of detail. So here is my situation...I've liked this guy for 5 years now. Anywhoo, I knew him from high school. (back in the day) We knew of each other, but never spoken. Until.....now. I recently started to talk to him on facebook. We were messaging each other back and forth. He is not on my friend's list; he refuses to be. Anyways, things started out well. We were talking and what not, but then something happened...I asked him, "do you want to get to know me a bit more?" Then, I don't know what happened. He stopped talking to me. I think this is where I screwed up. I keeped on bugging him because he won't answer any of my questions. (I hate uncertainty.)Then, my good friend got involved. And guess what? He started talking to her. He was so nice to her. But when she mentioned my name he got mad. He's like, "I don't know who (my name) is. I never talked to (my name)." lol. Who says that?? He always repeats my name over and over again when he is talking to my friends. Why can't he say she or her?? So my friend is like, "why are you lying? I've seen the conversations. Just tell her how you feel. (meaning, what's on you mind)" So, he writes back saying, "Are you joking?" So she is like, "what's there to joke about?" He didn't say anything after that. Oh, one more thing. I am finding that he adds and talks to my friends on facebook, but refuses to talk to me. He treats me like crap, but is nice to my friends. He doesn't even know my friends...and my friends don't know him. WTF??I also told him that, "I thought that you would be different, but I was wrong about you." He writes back all mad, and says, "You are nuts." I am not sure what that means.... I just want to know why is he acting like this? What did I do? What is on his mind? Why does he hate me so much? Why does he get all mad when he hears my name? Why doesn't he want me to be his friend? I've added him, but he keeps on ignoring me...but when my friends do it, he adds them. (They add him to see if they can help me figure out what is wrong with him.) I can not talk to him anymore now because he blocked me from facebook. Yeah! He told me that if I ever talk to him again, he is going to call the police. Yeah, it got wayyyy out of control. Please help me. I am going nuts right now. What should I do now?
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reader, deb777  +, writes (5 December 2008):
 It sounds he is mixed up about talking. yes,some say,if you bother people too much,they don't like the pushing.This did happen to me. I loved this guy,so much and kept on repeating over and over to marry me. He left me.for good. There are other men [great ones] out there. I would just try to forget him. Hang around your girlfriends.Maybe you may find some luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2008): What you are doing is called 'harassment'. You could be charged with 'stalker' laws. Don't take this lightly. You know it was wrong, but you continued to harass him and now he may call the police. That would be Humiliating!
You're in denial, and need to face the truth. Sometimes the truth hurts, but it will set you free.
Feel all the emotions (in the privacy of your own room): sadness, rejection, anger, a cleansing cry, it will help you put an end to this.
Move on in life, a new hope of someone new is a dream away.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (4 December 2008):
 I agree with all the other aunts. You could redeem your self esteem by maybe one last message, 'I'm sorry for being a pain, I won't bother you again'. Then move on. hope this helps.
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reader, sarcy24 +, writes (4 December 2008):
 Honey you must leave this guy alone, totally , no texts, e-mails , messages via friends or anything. He doesn't want to know and he doesn't like being bugged by you. I know this is really hard but I had an injunction taken out against me for constantly ringing my now ex husband and it isn't nice. It makes you feel like an idiot so don't go down this route. Find someone else that you like, stop looking on face book and just back off from this man totally. You must pretend that you are no longer interested and don't give a toss what he is up to or you are going to land yourself in a whole heap of trouble. Stop now and tell your friends that you are no longer interested in any way so they can help you through this.
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (4 December 2008):
 Your annoying him he dooesnt know you and you didnt talk for 5 years and now your bugging him with messages and he ignores you because he does not want to talk to you and didnt add you on facebook because he does not want to, he talks and adds your friends probably because they dont bug him.
Get the hint and leave him alone he is not intrested and does not want to talk to you.
Sorry to be harsh but you need to get his hints and leave him alone
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