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writes: I've done something I really regret and I don't know how to make it right. My girlfriend told me a secret that she never wanted repeating about her and her future housemate (a close friend of mine), but I managed to put my foot in it by mentioning it to her future housemate's girlfriend. By doing so I've really jepordized their relationship as well as my own. I've lost all trust in mt Girlfriend's eyes and I don't know if I can ever get it back. I love her to pieces and Idon't know what I would do : (Any help would me much appreciated Distraught Uni student, 18 Reply to this Question
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reader, Spl-ash  +, writes (11 June 2007):
 hi,
tough situation, i believe u meant no harm... how about u try and minimise the damages by trying to talk to ur close friend and your girlfriend(seperatly of course).
You could apologise n clear things out and maybe invite them two to talk things out between them n get things settled cause believe me it will be hard 4 them to live together n hold grudges!
As for ur girlfriend and u if ur relationship is strong u will get through it. As KellyO said apologise and show regret. get her a bunch of flowers(if she loves them) and show her what she means to u... how important she is. think. u know better than i what will get through to her.
all the best
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reader, kellyO +, writes (11 June 2007):
 Hi there,
it is going to be difficult regaining the trust again i must confess. What u need to do is explain to her why u did it. Your true intentions. Was it u thought u could help fix things? you need to come clean, show regret, be really apologetic and hopefully she will forgive you.
Goodluck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2007): Apologise and apologise and apologise. Grovel until she accepts it, and promise never, ever to break her trust again.
But don't be surprised if she takes a LOT of winning round, and never tells you anything in confidence again... or at least for a very long time!
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reader, nologo  +, writes (11 June 2007):
 By how you asked secret can be guessed.
Maybe you should be less explicit here.
Your words went out wrong as a fact and now the more you keep mentioning this to her, the more hurt you both will be.
Here is tension between you and your girlfriend at the moment.
Let the time heal the wounds, because this is just an episode.
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