My friend wants to sow some wild oats before moving in with her new boyfriend.

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Hello. I need some advice to give to my friend "Martha". She is going to move in with a guy who is much older than her. She is not underage and she is not so young either. Anyways, once she moves in with him she knows she would like to stay with that guy for the rest of her life but still, she told me she would like to sow her wild oats first. get the know the world, etc. she says as long as he doesn't know it won't hurt him. well, there is no way for him to know anyway, I said. She doesn't want to catch anything so she said she will be careful. I said I don't know about that but she should get tested at least six months before she is going to start having sex with her new partner. right now, he is traveling around the world because of work but she's known him for quite a while already. He is a man with lots of experience, obviously and he might be waiting for her but also he might not be waiting and doing his own thing on the side. who knows? She only said that he said that once they were together they had to be faithful to each other. they don't speak about whether he is having sex with others or not. but she says she is not having sex with no one for a long time now but she wants to. is testing 6 months or 3 months ahead safe enough to make sure she is still clean after sowing her wild oats? Non judgemental advice would be appreciate it. Thanks a lot.

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