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writes:I have been dating my boyfriend for approx. 8 months now. We belong to different cultures. He is an introvert and likes his space. He does not share a lot about his friends. I assume that is because he wants to give them their privacy. Quite recently, a girl has started texting him at all odd hours - midnight, 1 am, 5 am etc... All he has told me about her is that she was an intern who he was working with. She is married but is unhappy with her marriage. He also told me that she has been recently diagnosed with brain cancer. I assumed she was just a colleague but this late hour texting makes me suspect there is more to this relationship. He does not tell me what they discuss. I know he is not cheating on me. I just want to know if this is normal in American friendship to call or text friends of opposite sex as late as this. Where I come from, only boyfriends or girlfriends call each other at these late hours. I don't want to confront my boyfriend unnecessarily. So, I would really appreciate an honest answer. Thanks in advance.
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reader, yuweisqly  +, writes (28 June 2010):
It happens to me at night that all my worries get together in my brain. One night I was so worried about losing my job that I was half a sleep and started calling random people at 2am, 3am. I was half conscious I guess and so embarrassed in the morning, because everyone started asking me what a hell was that all about!!! I had absolutely no intention of calling anyone for sex or anything else!! Now I just leave my mobile switched off and as far away from me as possible. :)
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reader, eddie  +, writes (29 December 2009):
 The fact she is unhappy in her marriage and texting at those late hours is not really what I would call appropriate. Apart from that, it is also disrerpectful on her part to do this. I can't think of any reason I'd call someone else's wife in the middle of the night. I'd be wondering what her partner was thinking. It's just a line that shouldn't really be crossed. So I'd say it's out of line for her to be doing this and not really very nice of him to be accepting the messages.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (29 December 2009):
Sounds like it might be a bit of an emotional affair. She shouldn't be texting at that time of night. I suggest you explain to him you're worried about the relationship, and see how he responds.
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