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writes:my GF of 18months and the mother of my 10 month son is making me belive im parinoid, i thinkbasicly she has been intouch with an old friend and has now admitted that he fancys her, last week she was going to a party and said that this lad was NOT going to be there, how ever i went through her blue book (where text messages are stored online for her mumber) to find that he was... i confronted her about it and she got angry that i invaded her privacy, then later appoligised for liying to me. Since then we agreed that we would not hide anything from each other, tonight she said that she was going to her mums for a catch up and to watch a film, i checked her bluebook again, this time to find out that she had met up with this guy again, this time i havent comfronted her as i dont want to make it seem i have broken my promise, but evidently shew has broken hers.i am finding it hard to trust her now, i know that relationships work on trust but i also belive that deceit cant be part of it to, which is what i belive tonights act was.her and her mu fabricated a story so that it seemed she was at her mumsmy reason for concern is she never replies to my msgs anymore and ALWAYS hisone last thing that i would like help with: if she has nothing to hise does she need privacy?any addtional information to help paint a better picture i will post itany help on this would be appriciated
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): She is cheating, simply cheating. Privacy, what does she mean by privacy when she lacks respect for you.
Embarressing you, and for her to try and let you think you are this dumb.
This is breaking your heart, she is being selfish. A fling what ever it is, it is not to be tolerated unless you want to tolerate it.
Trust, yeap she has broken that. Angry is the first reaction, of course you have invaded her privacy, but you too share the same bed together, and have sexual relations together, and you do not want to end up getting herpes or anything from her.
Say to her, what is it that she sees wrong with your relatinship together that she feels the need to talk to some old flame, and not put you first? She will get angry but at least you are trying.
Its a hard one as you have a baby. Do you trust this man around your child? I would not. Does this man know she has a child to you?
She is cheating and she is being a bitch to you too. You can either take it, or leave it!
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (13 November 2010):
 Relationships will not work without trust, consider it over if the trust is nonexistent. Unless you 2 are married then yes she is entitled to her privacy..such as her blue book. That's her property in which you have no business flipping thru. So you had suspicions and searched again, you found out she was lying twice and met up with this friend. However, it still doesn't prove there is anything going on with this guy. She could have not told you about him because she knew you would get jealous. Or something maybe going on with him and your jealousy/trust issues is driving her away. You could ask her why she continues to see this friend when she knows he likes her, and ask if she has a thing for him since she's hiding it. Then proceed to figure out what you want to do with this relationship. If you can forgive her, then let her regain the trust and by all means refrain from checking her blue book..But if you can't and your trust issues are still getting the best of you, it's better for you, her, and your son to let this relationship go. Otherwise you will drive yourself mad checking her book every night to try to see if she's lying about her whereabouts.
You would think she would hide her bluebook or not write in it, since it causes so much trouble.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): Hey she had lot of privacy she takes this as your minus so spoke to her gently that i dont want to hide anythings with you i tell you whatever i think in my mind tell him all about that then tell him sorry for this kindly then she will tell you all she thinks in her mind good luck
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