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writes:I'm in a pretty big state of jealousy right now, and I'm not comfortable with the feeling! In my school, there are a lot of popular and pretty girls. Even though i'm one of them, i still feel jealous towards a few of them. For instance, on Facebook they always get a million comments on their photos saying "gorgeous" and "text me" and other stuff. i get it too but I just feel this jealousy whenever a guy i like comments on their photos or writes on their wall. They get a lot of attention in school and have guys drooling all over them as if they were celebrities. How can I overcome this jealousy?
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reader, Keira9312 +, writes (24 July 2010):
Keira9312 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you sooo much for everything!!!!! I was just in a state of strong jealousy and confusion but I guess i just needed someone to help me wake up. I'm going to work on getting better at being myself, and focusing on MY life; not others'. Thanks again for all the help!!
~Keira~
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (24 July 2010):
What you need to do is act like you don't care! and you want to see the guys see you in a different light? but you need to stick to your guns on this one. guys like girls who are bubbly and very active! if one guy makes a comment! about a girl and says shes pretty look at him and say i think shes pretty too! it shows you are not jealous or ensecure and you are a very positive person. and even if one of those girls make a comment about there face book about how they look just say i think it's a good picture of you she will look at you and say wow it doesn't bother her and so they wont even go there because they know it doesn't get to you. girls try to hurt other girls and they like to say they are better then you by rubbing it in your face. well they can't rub it in your face now can they if it doesn't bother you. so do your thing instead of worrying about them and bringing yourself down why don't you focus on you! and let yourself shine because being jealous shows on a person but one who is not shines! shines!shines! what do you got to lose try it. and be you, no matter what. or how pretty they think they are? your the girl who is pretty inside and out!!!Have Fun!
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reader, xnickx +, writes (24 July 2010):
 Personal story time!
I get it. Im 17, im popular, but popular in a way that everyone likes me, i basically have no enemies, yet im not the one that gets invited to all the parties, but if i happen to be there people tend to stick around me.
While my best friends are all the other kinda popular, the kind where all the girls gush over them, they're the life of the party. etc.
basically you have to get used to the idea that there will always be someone more popular, more pretty, more whatever than you, or me, or anyone.
it seems like your jealousy is more only when its guys you like, so maybe the best way of getting over this is not worrying about them too much. If theyre commenting on her status and not yours, hes into her and not you. The more you focus on him, the harder it will be to let go.
The way you put it, you sound like you're a girl that a highschool guy would definately be after. take advantage of that and find a guy that will take your mind off of everyone else.
If its just the attention youre jealous of in general you'll like moo's mum said, dont compare your lives to anyone elses, and give everyone elsee a reason to be jealous of you
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (24 July 2010):
 Jealously is a really hard thing to overcome especially at your age. I know how you feel because at the moment I'm working on overcoming jealously of my sister. She is in a new relationship with a guy who dotes on her and they do all sorts of exciting things together and go on lots of trips while I'm stuck at home with 3 kids. The silly thing is that I'm really happy for her so that's what I concentrate on when I get that jealous feeling.
Try to concentrate on being happy for your friends when they get attention and don't compare their lives with yours. Live the best life you know how to and get the most out of it you can and you know what other people will be jealous of you :-)
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