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writes:I am 16 and i am in love with an ex. When i was 14 I met him,he was 16 and rather gorgous. We went out for a couple of months. It wasnt serious, cause i was only 14, then we split up over him liking my best friend. After that he went round my friends in a way... none lastin until he was with a friend of mine for over a year. By this time I had been with his best friend, and cousin.When i was about 15 and a half i broke up with my boyfriend of 9 months and was near enough heartbroken. And around that time he broke up with his girlfriend. We sat up talking about old times and decided to meet. By which time we shared our first kiss in a year and a half. Then when we kissed, we felt bad cause he had a girlfriend, I knew this made it wrong.. but it was in the moment. We ended up seeing each other for abot 8 months, while he had a string of girlfrends,and i met his parents and got along with them really well. Now he's back, and he's changed and is faithful. We see each other loads and get on really well. I can be myself around him, which never happens.Then a few days ago we were in his room play fighting and he kissed me again. It felt right, even though i have a bf. He didnt know i had a bf and i dont know wat it means.What do ya'll think?Getting him out of my life isnt an option.
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reader, Charleybabes0811 +, writes (5 September 2008):
its me again.
I am a virgin thanks, so thee, you sleep with alot of guys really offends me. I came here for help not judgement.
Thank you to the male reader, and yes i know that things are different. He used to cheat on people, and wanted to be with me then but i told him that i wasnt going to be with him unless he sorted himself out in being faithful. That's why we were seeing eachother not together. For a while when he moved back we would just hang out, and not kiss or anything, and after mentioning this he told me he was tired of messing girls around, and that he didnt see the point. So you can see the change from how he was at first.
Anyone else got any advice though? Cause I need him in my life, i just don't know how is best.
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reader, starismine1  +, writes (5 September 2008):
 You date and sleep with alot of guys, and you get alot of attention from guys, so knowing how you really feel about him can only come from distancing yourself from seeing anyone for a few weeks and really getting in touch with how you feel about the guys in your life. At this point, how can you know for sure? Tell them all you need time for yourself to figure it all out. Time will tell you what you need to know...time dating no one for awhile.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2008): Getting him out of your life IS an option. It's just not the one you want.
I would say things might be okay if he's really changed.
But that's the huge IF in this. Honestly it's a hell of a lot more likely that he will be back to his old ways soon, if he ever really left them in the first place. He may be trying to leave his old ways, but it takes more than good intentions.
I know you want to believe him and that he's better than the bad guy I'm assuming here, but unfortunately EVERY player has a dozen girls in your position looking for reasons to believe him "this time." Don't think it can't really be you on that list too.
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