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writes:I'm 42 and think I may be pregnant. Don't want to be! I already have 2 older kids and this was just a slip up. Apparently the chances of fertility decreasing over 40 didn't apply to me. I want to get the abortion pill but it costs over $400 and a procedure probably more. I can't confide in anyone, dont' have that kind of money and can't ask for it and just in a confused state. I won't even tell the guy as I take full responsibility.
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (4 September 2008):
 Before I comment please note I am not anti-abortion or being judgmental just trying to be objective.
You were not solely responsible it took two to make this baby. Carefully weigh up your options, could you forgive yourself easily if you had a termination or will it haunt you for the rest of your life? Would it be so bad to have this child - Im 40 and have a 3 year old and its bloody hard work but I wouldnt be without him now. The other way you can look at this is you could give a childless couple the gift of a baby through adoption but you would have to be pretty strong to go through with that when the time came. Also, being older and pregnant is harder then when you are in your twenties.
Talk to the guy, he may have a different take on things that will make you think in another direction or he may even offer to pay or help you with the costs. Just dont make a rash decision that you will regret, hard when you only have so long to make that decision. I wish you luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2008): I don't know about your country but in most countries, if you go to the family planning clinic and explain that you want an abortion they assist you; it it is before 12 weeks it is very easy; you normally get medication and hospitalization is not needed. If your family planning clinic or health clinic cannot help you, do consult your local doctor, he can give you a prescription to do the necessary as well; it will cost you much less.
My thoughts are with you; be strong and do what is best for you!
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reader, misfitschik66  +, writes (4 September 2008):
 if you can't afford any abortion options and you don't want it you have the only other option of having it and giving it up for adoption
maybe you should think twice about this do you have family that can support you if you decide to keep it?
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