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anonymous
writes:Hi my bf of 1 year said he wasn't sure what he wants! Said he needed space! I got really upset as I told him I want to be together! Anyway he moved in with a friend! I kept texting him saying he needs to tell me straight whether he wants to be with me or not! His words, I know it's not nice but I'm indecisive?! I said what if we go out on a date?! He said but I just need time, if we go out and it Doesnt work then that will make it worse! I took this as being dumped nicely! I got upset/mad so I added me on Fb! That day he text me saying, that's it were done! I wanted to take things slowly and u make me look like an idiot! Now I feel heart broken! I've apologised saying it was only to get him jealous! I then cried and begged him back but no! After that he text me everyday, just things like are u ok and little chit chat! I never contact him first! He text me the other day again asking if I'm ok. I said I am fine! I'm not texting u as you need your space! He said well u can text me anytime?! That was Thursday and I never replied or heard from him since! It's been 2weeks but only 2days of no contact! I miss him like crazy but want him to miss me! He is stubborn and I feel maybe if I leave it 1more week till I next text him?! Can anyone help?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (5 June 2011):
 He sounds spiteful, as do you... Are you sure this is a relationship worth fighting so much for? Why did you try to make him jealous.. it shouldn't have been necessary.
And if he was a real man he'd not jump off like that and say you're through just because of something on facebook (I guess that is what you mean by Fb?). He got provoked and ended it, even though he sort of already had.
That means.. he doesn't need time anymore, he made up his mind. Leave it be, grieve, cry, but leave it be. I don't think you should be with him. After a year or so you know what a person is truly like. This man is indecisive. Better to know that after one year and leave him behind, than be married and have him walk out on you. After one year he knows what he wants, he just is scared of telling you. He doesn't want you. Let him rattle the cage, he only wants attention. Ignore him and find yourself a better relationship, one where you don't try to make each other jealous, or say spiteful and hurtful things.
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reader, chick989 +, writes (5 June 2011):
I'm in exactly the same situation right now and it's killing me!!!! he started being distant and said he needed space due to us always arguing- most of what he causes. I've been with him nearly 3 years and he did this to me last summer as well. from my experience I would advise u leave him alone and let him come to you - i know how hard it is and am really struggling myself! it's like I'm counting the hours but he's liking his space and doesn't miss me. how did this behaviour start with him? have u turned up at his friends or asked to see him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2011):
just let him go ..
it is as simple as this:
You are a complete strong, powerful woman. You don't need to "miss" him .. u just miss the feeling of closeness that can happen with other men to whom you feel attracted..
just forget about it .. enjoy your life..
if he wants you, he'll come back .. if not then it is his loss..
Layla
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