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writes:ok i have to post this question again auz i didn't got ne reply except 1...i am in a commited relationship. i and my bf love each other like mad.. its a ldr. ok so the situation is that few months back my bf used to visit me every month and we used to have sexual activities... we also had oral sex but couldnt have sex. now its been 3 months i haven't seen him! the problem is that he's busy with academics... but i have started to feel very depressed... cuz i have to sleep on the same bed where we had all those stuffs. its very painful... he says he'll meet me in july! but its a huge gap. what to do? is there some way i can mesmerise him to come?cuz i can't say him to come othewise god knows what he will think and i can't go to my bf's place cuz i live with my parents but he lives alone.Moreover he does spend a lot of time with his friends, having night stay and watching movies.. an now he's free... for few days.. so i think he can come for two days.... whenever i sleep on my bed, all the past memories that i have spent with him haunts me... and its very difficult for me to live my daily routine, is there some way out? what to do? plz help. its difficult for me to survive like this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni m also at school...we study in the same grade bt r far from each other...well we meet secretly.we don't say our parents,he hides and comes to my house..i know its risky..bt still everything is fine.ya we r marrying after few years and ya he's qualifications matters a lot.bt he's intelligent so no problem regarding that.lets see what happens.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2010): Hi. As k c 100 quite rightly says, this is a ldr. You will miss each other and theres nothing wrong with asking your bf to visit when he has time off, as he surely does. Im wondering if you real concern is thats hes busy, happy and isnt planning to see you for many months. Do you feel you are being left behind while hes having a good time and creating a future for himself. You dont mention what you are doing. Are you at college or working?
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (28 March 2010):
 Well if he has a few days spare every now and then ask your parents if he can come to stay for a couple of days, and then if they say yes then you can invite him to come and see you. Inviting your boyfriend to visit you is not weird and he should not think differently of you if you do, you are supposed to be in love so he should be happy to come and visit you when you invite him. Its not like you are begging him to come back, you are just asking him to visit you for a day or 2.
But if you dont want to invite him to visit you then there is not a lot else you can do. You are in a LDR - this is what comes with this type of relationship. If you cannot handle it then you are not cut out to be in a LDR and you should end the relationship. Your boyfriend needs to be focussed on his studies, it is very important and you should not feel depressed about this, he is doing the right thing and it will only benefit him in the future. If you two do plan on getting married and being together long term, then if he gets good grades and qualifications then this will help you too - it means you will have a better future together.
Just try and keep busy, see your friends, concentrate hard on school or work or whatever it is that you do, spend time with your family......anything will help to keep your mind off missing him. It is natural to miss someone and have memories of the past, but at least you know you will see him soon, that needs to be the hope you hold onto and be happy that your future does include him.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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