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writes:I have found out when on my bf's computer, that in an email he had in his inbox, he has ordered 9 hardcore sick sick sick porn.!!!!What does this mean? is he a perve? He never seems like that. does it mean i'm not enough for him?I feel like i realy dont know him!
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reader, IGetIt +, writes (19 November 2008):
I don't think people go around checking their partner's emails, cell phones and computer history UNTIL they have strong reason to. Then it's a useful tool to determine if you're being lied to. Still, it's sad that one has to resort to this and it indicates that he probably has a problem and you are in pain. Encourage him to get help and if he doesn't, fine someone who you trust enough to not feel like you have to check up on him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2008): i think that you should find out about help groups in your local area and advise that you and him go along to one after you have sat down and spoken about your conserns and if you feel deeply troubled by his obsesion then you yourself should contact a councelor!!! good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2007): What do you mean by sick porn? Unfortunately I spend most of my time tracking down paedophiles and therefore have to watch really horrendous stuff. It is a big industry but as you said, you think it is sick, so it troubles you. Watching anyone being hit or knowing the face is in pain or it is disturbing so much so it gives you nightmares. If he is into something YOU don't like (and I am presuming this is not child pornography, but then again you can never tell how old people are)...then do something about it, stop seeing him or report him. After watching nearly 15 years of 'porn' or sexual deviants perform horrific acts on children and adults, you never ever get used to it. The feeling of putting someone away and knowing they will never hurt anyone again, makes the job bareable knowing that he/she will never touch anyone again. Listen to your instincts, if you don't like it then it isn't a matter of whether you have decided he is pervert or sexual deviant, just get out of this relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2007): No it dosent mean your not good enuf for him!!! listen all men look at porn its a sad fact that all women have to face. All porn is sick really dont you think? my boyfriend of 3 years looks at porn ALL the time and its getting out ov hand. If you and your partner have a healthy relationship have good sex love each other an so on please dont let this get in to your head too much or u will only end up hurtin yourself and your confidence. trust me from experience. If your boyfriend starts looking at it it every day an makes excusess then you need to start worryin.! 1 last thing he wont tell you the truth so try your hardewst not to get mad when he lies just say ive seen you inbox (thats if he knows you look at his emails) and i seen your recipt then state your case. unless that is you can b a wicked girlfriend an just except the fact that he is gona do this sometimes and theres nothing you can do. Hope it all goes well gud luck with it.
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reader, penta  +, writes (18 May 2007):
 By itself I really believe that porn isn't a problem. Guys like to look and always will. Whether this is a problem depends on the kind of porn. Is it illegal? (Kiddie, snuf, etc.)? That should send up all kinds of red flags. But it may be that he has a kink that he wouldn't dream of asking you to share, so he's doing it on his own. This DOES NOT mean that you aren't enough for him, so don't worry.
Things to worry about with porn: is it illegal (and could it get him -- or you for helping him hide it through inaction -- into jail)? Has he started spending more time with his porn than with you (which could show an unhealthy addicition)?
If the answer to those questions is no, then you need to ask yourself if you can deal with a man who has a kink you consider sick? If no, then you should leave the relationship -- asking him to stop looking at porn is really asking him to find a better hiding place for it. If it has no other affect on your life, I would ignore it.
BTW, you might also stay out of his e-mail. You kinda got what you deserved looking into his private stuff like that.
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