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*ambino2008
writes:Hello All!This is a kinda complicated story (aren´t they all?!?).I met a rather attractive but considerably younger woman (I am 37 and she is 22) and we flirted for a while and then about 5 weeks ago, we got together. We haven't slept with each other yet and I am planning on being in the same town as her next week. That's the easy bit.Now I am married - in a very unhappy, but open marriage. She knows that as I have told her. Furthermore, she used to be my student at University but I had deliberately and consciously avoided socializing while she was still my student for obvious ethical reasons.So after we last met, we were e-mailing quite a bit (every other day) and then it became less frequent and I deliberately only responded to e-mails or text messages when she contacted me first.Her penultimate one had a title: "student to professor :)". I called last week and she said "is this going to become a habit?" with laughter in her voice - it's impossible to see what she was really thinking of course.Since then, we haven't contacted each other - I have been waiting for her to get in touch. I arrive in her town next Wednesday.My question is: what does this mean? What do you think she feels for me? Is she not contacting me because she has lost interest? When I do arrive should I call her?She's a very beautiful, intelligent and sharp person. We´ve never had a serious conversation about what has happened and I am wondering if I begin that conversation whether I will blow it.Thanks in advance for any advice you could offer...CheersYus
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reader, bambino2008 +, writes (18 May 2007):
bambino2008 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi Taste of India
Thanks for the wise words...you're probably right and I am fooling myself any other way.
Cheers
Bambino2008
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (18 May 2007):
 It sounds like she's moved on. If you have already put the ball in her court, it sounds like she has made her decision. I think she's making the right choice, however. If you are married, then you shouldn't be seeing anyone else. When you're single again, maybe you can give her a call.
I do think what has happened, has happened for the best. If you are unhappy in your marriage, you should be trying to fix that relationship, or ending it because cheating is never alright. You mentioned ethics, well...
Sorry that this isn't the advice that you probably wanted, but that's my take!
xxIndia
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