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writes:I've been dating my bf for almost 3 years now and I found a fake vagina in my boyfriend's closet during in the middle of our first 1 1/2 year together. I found out that he bought it 3 days before my birthday! I was so mad that we got into a huge fight. I remember him mentioning, "at least i didnt cheat on you" in the middle of our argument. I took it and threw it away but if i didnt, he wouldve still kept it. He hasnt told me the reason why he bought it even until now. I dont think he'll ever tell me. Is he embarrass? or he just doesnt want to hurt my feelings? What does this mean? We already got over it but sometimes i would always wonder if he'll buy another one. I love him, he is the perfect guy, he never lied to me until this one. It's been half a year now since it happened and i never apologize for it. Now that Ive realize he's never done anything wrong, should I get him a new one? What should I do? This never happened to me before.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2010): Hae.
Dont be angry at him because its just a fake vagina. I mean, whats wrong with that. Ask yourself is it better that he has a fake vagina than a another one, real one? Like most girls, they play with vibrators alot. Guys and girls both like to play by themselvs. Its natural and everyone does it so dont worry. And say sorry, its your decision to buy him another one. Or even use his one for him? There is nothing wrong with a fake vagina and a fake penis to play with, right? And he may be embaresed that you went off at him for that kinda thing, but say sorry. If he is the one your better off saying sorry and getting over this and just get on with your life. Hope i helped.
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reader, alltheanswers  +, writes (24 July 2009):
whao hang on a second....to the person who wrote this"Don't for a minute accept the idea that he absolutely needs sexual release. Any man worth the name has self-control. Any man worth your time will take the feelings of his beloved into account. And any self-respecting man would refuse to cower behind such a flimsy defense: "At least I didn't cheat on you." As if he would be forced to cheat otherwise.Your boyfriend is shockingly selfish, and you have every right to be upset. If he cannot control his basic bodily urges, he is acting like a child. You deserve better."THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG WITH THIS. You way over reacted. How is using a fake vagina any different to using a hand. Both are just objects used to simulate the feeling of sex. AND TRUST ME however much sex you two have, he is still going to jack off! thats life. Guys just want it more then girls. If you have an issue with a fake vagina then you may as well have an issue with his hand. Cause both are just tools to make the process quicker. n if you do have an issue with it then you have self confidence issues, cause your gettin jealous over a piece of plastic. If you dont want him to have a fake vagina, then be prepared to have sex with him WHENEVER he wants. Cause thats the only way throwing away his fleshlight would be fair. Else you have no business doing that. Cause if you dont give him as much as he wants or NEEDS for that matter, then it should be completely his business how he wants to deal with it (providing its just masturbation not having an affair or something). be it fleshlight, hand or apple pie ( ;P ). Get with the program girls... jeesh. No girl can give a guy as much sex as he wants, and masturbation is different to sex anyway. So even regardless how much you have sex he will still probably masturbate. YOU OWE THIS BOY A BRAND 'SPANKING' NEW FLESHLIGHT MISSY!!! you cant order someone to stop masturbating how they like to. Its like him saying to you you need to become a vegetarian (or to eat meat if you are already) because thats how he likes to think of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2009): Mabie he just got it for when your not around
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2009): I would not be intimidated by the sex toy. Be glad he is using the sex toy instead of trolling bars for real vagina. As a guy, I love real vagina, and to make love to a woman with a very tight vagina is the best. But sometimes you just need a quick release all by yourself. Every day a man's prostate fills with semen and his testicles fill with sperm. Men have to release this daily or else we feel tense, edgy, irritable, hostile, and sometimes if we go too long between ejaculations, our balls will actually ache. If he is in his twenties or early thirties, then he needs to ejaculate at least twice a day. Don't worry, there will be plenty of cum left for you. Buy him a ribbed Fleshlight and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2009): i agree with everyone that just because he has a fake one that doesn't mean he likes it better than yours because I know a fake one cant even be compared to a real one-RT
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2009): I do not think its any reflection on you, it is a tool used to masturbate which is natural for both sexes. It is the same as a woman having a vibrator.I dont think you have anything to worry about at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2009): Don't for a minute accept the idea that he absolutely needs sexual release. Any man worth the name has self-control. Any man worth your time will take the feelings of his beloved into account. And any self-respecting man would refuse to cower behind such a flimsy defense: "At least I didn't cheat on you." As if he would be forced to cheat otherwise.
Your boyfriend is shockingly selfish, and you have every right to be upset. If he cannot control his basic bodily urges, he is acting like a child. You deserve better.
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reader, mitta  +, writes (14 June 2009):
i think you are worrying about this far too much. If he doesnt use the fake vagina he'll probably just use his hand instead anyway... are you going to chop off his hand?
Theres nothing wrong with masturbation, its different to sex, im sure he still much prefers making love to you than mastubating!
Maybe you have some security issues in your relationship, Do you fully trust him? Instantly you assume that he has a fake one because yours is not good enough... Dont be silly! Even the most top of the range fake vagina is still A FAKE VAGINA! Lol. I think this situation has more to do with you and your issues than him. Give the guy a break. Dont necessarily buy him another one, but stop sweating the really small stuff.
TC x
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reader, Beingblack +, writes (14 June 2009):
 Sincerely is spot on. There is no harm in him having a fake vagina. He masturbates, and I would bet huge amounts that he thinks of you while he's using it. Masturbation for men is all about fantasy, and the role of the women in that fantasy.
If I was dating a new(ish) woman, and 'found' a vibrator or dildo in her closet, the last thing I would do is confront her, and throw it away.
Get him a new one for his birthday, and remember what Sincerely said at the end - no matter what method he uses, there is nothing, NOTHING like the feel of a real vagina.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2009): It's a harmless fake vagina. It's not the vagina of another person, it doesn't mean that yours in inadequate or that he doesn't enjoy sex with you. it jsut means that he's a normal humand being and needs to masturbate and he would rather use something besides his hand. I think you should get him a new one, since you threw it away. I gaurantee that the real vagina still feels a heck of a lot better!
~SY.
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