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writes:Hello, I just want to ask the guys if they still find thier ex's attractive? Do you still think about your ex? And also do you think about your ex during sex with your current partner?Thanks in advance for the replies. Reply to this Question
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reader, mr toyboy  +, writes (1 September 2010):
I broke up with my ex after 4 years together because we just couldnt get along and kept fighting all the time.Well, now am with my current girlfriend for 9 months and we get on very well and i love her very, but sometimes, i just cant stop thinking of my Ex, so yes, we do think of our Exs sometimes, but that doesnt mean we want to go back to them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2010): I genuinely feel first love is something very special and so if your ex was your first love then the memories of first time sex and meetings will continue reverberating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2010): I'm the OP although it wont say so.
I asked this as I do get concerned about my partner. He has been out of his last relationship for almost seven years, she's moved on and married and they have no contact and also he has no photos and only speaks about her if I ask or in an informational way eg: I asked him how he knows about hair dryers and he said his ex had one etc that kind of thing.
Caring guy, my partners relationship and the end of it sounds very much like yours. In fact he says exactly the same thing as you: that he hated her at first but now is indifferent to her. That she is simply just not part of his thoughts any longer. I do ask him from time to time and thats all that he says. But I do wonder sometimes and I thought I would ask.
Thank you caring guy and cerberus!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2010): It depends on the guy but for me no. I no longer find any of my exes attractive, not because they're not but because the girl I'm with now is far superior in every way.
Personally when I break up with an ex I like to focus on their flaws, the bad things they did and always end up finding them ugly for a while. It's just my way of getting over them. I find it easier to get over hate than I do love, and I find it easy to turn my passionate love into passionate hate that way I don't miss them and my temporary hatred of them makes it impossible for me to get caught up in rebound with them or let it turn into a long protracted break up. I literally can't stand the sight of them for a few months afterwards and when that fades I'm completely over them and not even interested in friendship.
No I've not once thought of another girl while having sex with any of my partners. I don't see how anyone could to be honest. Sex is an all enveloping thing, I've never thought of anything but the girl I'm with and giving her pleasure when having sex.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (1 September 2010):
I would say it depends on the ex. For me, I couldn't care a less about my ex. She cheated and lied to me. At first I was heartbroken, then I was angry. Now, I genuinely don't feel anything for her at all. I don't like her, but I don't hate her. I'm completely over her and completely indifferent towards her. The only time I ever think of her is when I'm on this site and I can use my experience to help someone else. Such as this.
But, at the same time there will be others who still think of their ex's.
I suppose it depends on the relationship, the break up, the reasons for those break ups and such.
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