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writes:How can you tell the difference between a bisexual or a gay man???? Gay men love to flirt, but when does flirting become more??? Please answer...especially if you are gay or bi
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2010): A completely homosexual male will flirt outrageously with females but couldn't possibly bring himself to connect tongues with one, never mind get down'n'dirty in a sexual content.
A gay male with bi-curious or hetero-curious tendencies might find that after one glass of wine too many, a knockout young female is offering to fellate him, and rather than refusing flat-out or recoiling in horror, he'll get genuinely excited and think 'oh, go on, why not, it wouldn't be polite to refuse'. It probably won't stop him going out the next night and having dynamite sex with the first hot guy he sees, though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2010): Bisexual means you will carry on sexual realtionships with either sex. Yu can have feelings of love only for, or primarily for one gender. But if you engage in sex with both genders, you are bisexual. Now, experimenting once...does that make you bi? I dont think so. Recurring behaviour defines our sexuality, not curiousity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2010): There are no bisexual men, is the best way to think in my opinion. Look a guy will either date guys or girls once they've reached adulthood. I have quite a few gay guy and girl friends, I am a regular on the gay scene as it's pretty much the safest party scene I've been involved in.
I know lots of gay guys that have experimented with girls when they were teenagers. I even know gay guys that haven't come out of the closet that still do. But in my many discussions with gays and lesbians, bisexuality is a teenage phase thing. When it comes to relationships I mean. These same gay guys have no problem kissing girls and getting intimate with them but they will only be in love with guys. Now technically you could call them bisexual because they find women attractive sexually but as far as relationships go they only have one preference.
That's what I mean when I say there are no bisexual men. As far as sex goes yes technically there are, they like to have fun with girls but would never get serious with them. I have a friend that's in a horrible situation that the moment, he's sleeping with and in love with a married man.
Now you could call this married man bisexual because he's sleeping with a guy but the fact remains, he has stated on a number of occasions that he would never get into a relationship with a guy and it's just sex.
From what I've been told "bisexual" people have a overriding preference for either men or women, it's just they find both attractive sexually but when it comes to relationships their love will only go one way. I'm sure there are plenty of examples where this is wrong because it is a generalization.
How do you know he's gay or bisexual? He could just be a feminine heterosexual man.
The only to tell is ask.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (1 September 2010):
 Ask them.. only proper way to tell really.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (1 September 2010):
 Quite an obvious answer to this one - If the man is bisexual and attracted to you then he would sleep with you/have a relationship with you. If a man is gay, then he is in no way interested in women! So thats your difference right there!
Often just by looking at a man or spending time with him you cannot always tell if he is gay or bi, some men are naturally quite camp and can appear gay even when they are not, and vice versa. So the only way to ever find out would be to spend time with him, get to know him and if you still havent figured it out then just ask!
If a gay man is flirting with you then it will never become more I am afraid, gay men are only interested in men so you will never have a chance with a gay guy. Simple as that. Gay men tend to like the company of women as friends, and yes they can be flirtateous but it is the harmless kind of flirting that is just friendly - it does not have any meaning. If a bisexual man was flirting with you that is a different matter, but if he is definitely 100% gay than flirting will never become "more".
I hope this helps and good luck!
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