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writes: I'm having me and my boyfriends problem. My parents don't like him because our religions are different. He is Christian and my parents are Buddhist. But I already converted to Christianity and my parents still don't know about it. If I told them, they would totally scold me. So what should I do now?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2005): Can you get to some common ground.... are there qualities about him that they could admire? If so it might be a question of exposing those qualities to them and down playing ther religion aspect.
If you think that they will be fixated on religion, and in your estimatation they are the type of people who will try to pressure you to drop him and put you in the middle, you should minimize the contact between them. Is there any reason he needs to see them at all? I am guessing he isnt invited to Christmas dinner....
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reader, samberries +, writes (14 November 2005):
Angeline:
I, myself, am Christian also. I think that it is best to not tell them about your conversion to Christianity yet. You have to explain to them calmly that everybody is different. Try not to end up in a big fight with your parents because that may just make things worse. Also, think about what your parents are saying or thinking, and try to agree with them, but don't forget about your boyfriend. Also, you may try showing your parents how awesome your boyfriend is. Tell them all the nice things or sacrifices he's done for you. Maybe one day, you can talk about your parents lovelife in the past or casually say somethings like "How did you and dad meet or what did you and dad do on your first date? (and then start talking about your boyfriend) =your boyfriend= did this for me."
I hope most of this helps you out, or is clear to you lol. ^_^
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reader, vegetarianham +, writes (14 November 2005):
It seems as though you are experiencing one of five prevalent young relationship barriers. Those are age, religion, family, friends and distance.
If you are serious about converting to Christianity, I first suggest praying about the matter. Your parents are going to have to know sometime. If you don't feel you can tell them upfront, I suggest giving them subtle hints like making special trips out to church each Sunday, leaving a Bible in your room, etc. I find that through going to church and learning, your faith can grow and maybe you'll have enough confidence to approach them about it.
Pray that God opens their minds up to what you have to say. Prayer really DOES work and sometimes it benefits us as much as them.
Don't be afraid of them scolding you. Remember:
I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
Phil. 4:13
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