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writes:My daughters boyfriend is 20... iam 42 and have a son older than him. I really liked him so allowed him to go on vacation with us. A few months later my daughter in a joking manner said that he wanted me..........we laughed it off as a joke. It is now about 1.5 yrs later and he starts sending me text messages. At first they were just simple.. im bored, whats up, etc. We have always had a good relationship and were able to communicate. After awhile, the messages got more flirtatious and after a while longer he said i was a MILF. I didnt know what that was so I asked. he told me.I still think that its a joke. i finally realized it wasnt. we had a real long talk in person. I explained how wrong it is for us to even send these texts and the age difference and most importantly, my daughter. He wasnt happy but we agreed to never bring it up again. I asked him to leave and said that our prior relationship could not change otherwise people will wonder why. He always kisses me on the cheek when he leaves. I walked him to the door and turned my cheek to him and he got me right IN the mouth. I am actually embarrassed to say that it was really nice. I had a few glasses of wine in me. the next day he said he felt stupid and we agreed again to never bring it up again. That only lasted a few days and we are right back and even more so and we are both planning this. what kind of a person am I. I know all of the damage that can come of this but he simply got under my skin.
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reader, soon567 +, writes (19 November 2010):
Sweetie they’re talking a strain in your daughter relationship. She already told you to go for it. Why are you prolonging this treat that for this (man) he is dying to get into? This could be good for you and you know sex is a relaxer. Who knows where this could lead too. Take off those blinders because he’s over 18 and legal in every way. Why pretend you don’t want this, heck he knows you do.
Here take a few more drinks:
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2010): I am thinking you should all save your breath for when she is back telling us how sleeping with her daughter's friend has strained the relationship with her daughter and how can she set it right.
Because this is going down.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2010): I'm sorry but where are your boundaries? We can't help who we think is cute,and even feel flattered if they show interest, but we can sure as hell, make sure we do nothing about it. There are people that are no goes, your daughters boyfriend it at the top of the list. No man is worth loosing you daughter over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2010): Go on girl!life is all about ones happines. Nobody will get out of life alive,get on and let the rest take cake of itself.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (19 November 2010):
 It's not about him- you just got cougar fever.
Nothing wrong with that- if you are single, spoil yourself and go hunting. It 's easier than you think- it's a very popular trend these days.
BUT NOT WITH YOUR DAUGHTER'S BOYFRIEND !
Do you want to backstab your own daughter ? I don't think so!
Well, not that she got herself a very nice boyfriend. A guy who makes sexual advances to her own mother..... yeah. Very respectful, very classy, very loyal. She'd be better off without him, if you ask me.
But she should NOT break up because of you. Don't be the cause of a huge rift with your daughter just because you are having a bout of cougar fever. Either grin and bear, or.. go cure it somewhere else !
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (19 November 2010):
 Stop putting yourself in situations where things can happen with this boy if you can't control yourself!!
Being blunt, this is despicable behavior. You're betraying your own daughter. You need to distance yourself from him, STUFF KEEPING UP YOUR PRIOR RELATIONSHIP!!! DISTANCE, NOW!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2010): well, heck, you go girl! But seriously, what harm CAN come from it? Are either of you planning to go any further than flirting? Who will this harm? Your daughter? SHe's not dating him, right? I think some playful flirting is fine. If it goes further, you will both have to think through the potential consequences and be ready to face them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2010): You sound lonely, I think u should tell him to leave both u and ur daughter straight away, a person who will go with the mum of someone they're going out with really isn't the good guy that you want to keep around
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