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*leudancer
writes:I don't know how to interpret this guy. I've recently gone through some not so fun dating thing that only lasted a few months and was hurt by the situation. I was keen on not dating anyone for a while, just to make sure I didn't go into the next thing without thinking or whatever I did the last time.I met someone new who is just so sweet. These are the kinds of things he says and does...A. He's expressed to me that he would be sad if I move away (because it's a possibility for me in the future), which I think is a little strange because he doesn't know me that well. B. When we go out with friends he will sit next to me and talk to me the whole time, and will make sure I'm involved in whatever the group is doing. C. He has offered me random things like his bike, just to have because I said I liked it, I refused of course. You don't just give people things like that! D. When I accidentally called him (phone in my pocket) and purposely called him later that night after I heard his message he said "I saw that you called and I got excited and thought "yay, she's calling me"..." I thought that was very forward even though we both know that the other is interested. There may be nothing wrong here but to be honest I just can't tell with guys anymore. He's really nice and because I've been burned in the past I want to make sure he's not just being nice just to get anywhere (like in my pants...)So I guess what I'm wanting to know is how can you tell that a person is being sincere? does it just take time with that person to see what they are really like? Are good guys straightforward like that?thank you =) Reply to this Question
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reader, Bleudancer +, writes (1 December 2010):
Bleudancer is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk, so we're still in contact and he hasn't made any moves yet. He's still very nice and has made some effort to contact me over the phone. I am still taking the time to get to know him slowly but surely. Thanks for the advice guys!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (19 November 2010):
One word: Time.
I think a lot of women try to psychoanalyse men nowadays, but for some reason none look in the right place. Those three things could be a sign that he's a very nice guy. At the same time, they might be a cover (to be fair, it sounds more like he's nice). But the one thing that tells the tale 90% of the time is time. The more time you take getting to know him, the more you will know whether he is a keeper or not. Take your time, let him get to know you, get to know him and see how it goes.
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reader, Mjfbla +, writes (19 November 2010):
 I think he is true in that he likes you. Alot. But from what u've mentioned it seems like you two havent known eachother long enough for him to like you that much. He probably is a super nice guy, I just think he may become super clingy and emotionally dependent. The whole getting excited that you called could be a good indicator.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2010): ~SINCERITY IS REAL~
And Self-Respect is equally real.
Enjoy his sincerity.
Trust in it.
But don't let him get into your pants until he takes the time to learns and falls in love with you.
Pay more to his actions than his words....
Equally, know that it's okay to be in love with him, long intimacy with him, YET not ever follow-through with going there because he failed.
Self-Respect~
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