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writes:Okay, i'm going to have sex with my boyfriend for the first time but i'm a bit nervous. I get the idea on here that it hurts, but others i have spoken to say it doesn't? How long could this go on for? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2008): the first time for me was bothersome and because I had no idea what to do it was not enjoyable. Took a few months before I could perform ok. Dont worry is not too bad.
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reader, Sophia_Sweetheart  +, writes (16 June 2008):
 Hello sweetheart.
You sure sound like you're worrying, do try and calm down a little. Losing your virginity is certainly not the most comfortable thing in the world, but can be a very pleasurable experience also.
I presume you are very relaxed and in love with your boyfriend? If so, this will make it such a lot easier. It's important not to tense the muscles down there, so just lie and get used to your boyfriend inserting himself. I'm sure he'll understand if you need to take it slow!
I'm sure you're more than aware that most girls are born with a hymen, and it remains intact until you lose your virginity. However, it can be broken during sport such as horse riding. If yours is still intact, this will probably be the most 'painful' part. You may bleed a little, but this is natural and nothing to worry about. It's normally only a very small amount of blood - not enough to cause much of a mess. Lots of foreplay and lubrication will make the job so much easier sweetheart, so remember to make sure you're both turned on before you start actually having sex.
I won't patronize you and go on about the importance of contraception, but do remember condoms or another form of protecting yourself against pregnancy.
Relax, it'll be great! Good luck. Let us know how it goes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2008): It depends on so much things whether it will hurt or not. The size of his penis, how relaxed you both are, whether there is enough lubricant. I would say make sure you use protection,relax and make sure both of you are ready. Those are two things you can control. For some people it hurts like mad, others it doesnt so i cant say for certain what it will be like for you.
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reader, LIERIN  +, writes (16 June 2008):
 It didnt hurt me at all ... I was bleeding just a little bit. It wasnt enjoyable at ALL! It kinda suck.
Just make sure he is really the right one, othervice you will be upset later on, that you gave it up to someone, that wasnt worth it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2008): It hurt for my first time, but I was only 15 so I'm much younger than you in terms of body size and development. It depends really on how mature your body is, some people feel nothing while others hurt. The only way you can know for sure is by attempting it, and finding out yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2008): hey hunny,
it will hurt a little and u will bleed.
but if your hymen is alreadt broken then it wont be as bad....if you ride, play sports, use tampons, etc. then its probly alredy broken and the only pain u will feel is the streacthing....try fingering, masterbating, things to make you really horney so your wet there for avoiding injuries that inflict pain!
good luck and use pertection!
xx, candy
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reader, Manximus  +, writes (16 June 2008):
 Well it depends on how comfortable you are. It can vary from person to person, but if you are feeling tense or uneasy, then it can hurt quite a bit.
Just try to take things slowly and be patient.
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reader, Peterk5699 +, writes (16 June 2008):
 I've read/heard it can hurt the first few times then it gets nice. I'm sure its not unbearable pain but as its your first time you hymen (aka cherry) will break and there will be a little bit of blood but nothing to worry about.
Just use plenty of lube and take it slow and remember to tell your boyfriend if you can't go on.
And also don't forget the condom.
Good luck and have fun
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