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writes:I have been seeing this guy for the past few weeks. He is separated and shares a son with his ex part-time. Unfortunatly over the holidays he did not get to see his son and was pretty upset (understandably). During this time he was texting me a few times a day and we were seeing each other quite often. Now he gets his son over the next 4-5 days, and it has been a couple days since we last saw/texted each other. He also stressed the point that his son comes first and that he dislikes how girls want to be priority when they clearly can't while he has his son(his son is always quite young still).When we last hung out (this was the night before he got his son)I said I guess I will see you Monday (we have a mutual activity we share) and he asked what I was doing for the week and he would probably text me before then, but he hasn't done that yet. This is the first time he hasn't texted me in the few weeks we have been hanging out, but it is the first time he has had his son since we've been haning out. I am not sure if it is because he is with his son and just busy or because he is blowing me off.
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (31 December 2010):
 I completely agree with Birdynumnums.
Christmas and New Year IS a busy family time. Your friend needs to be able to enjoy the few days he has with his son.
PLEASE accept that, as he has told you, his son is his first priority. That is how it should be, and don't begrudge him this time with his boy or fuss about it!
Accept it with grace, and your friend will think the more of you. You have nothing to lose, and maybe everything to gain, you know.
And no, I don't think he's blowing you off. Its only been a couple of days - basically no time at all. Now were it a week, that might be different.
Just relax, and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2010): you've only been seeing him for a few weeks, that's way too soon to be demanding that he make you a priority.
it would be totally different if you were in a long term committed relationship or married.
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reader, 1DrLove +, writes (31 December 2010):
My son once had a girlfriend that rode a bicycle 10 miles just to see each him.
I say that because when someone really wants to see (or be in contact) with another person, nothing will keep that from happening.
On the other hand. It's possible that spending time with his son reminded him what usually ends up happening with relationships. He probably realized that he doesn't want to be on that level with anyone at this point.
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (31 December 2010):
 Christmas and the holidays are very busy times; especially with a young son. He probably has a lot of other family obligations with siblings and parents who would want to see their nephew/grandson at this time of year when you boyfriend has his 5 days of custody; so I doubt that he is blowing you off - he's just busy. You are treading the line of being one of those girls who want to be the priority by asking this; however - so give him his space if you do want this relationship to blossom. Young kids ARE the parents priority and should be; good girlfriends understand this. If you can't, you might want to date a single and childless guy who has no other demands on his time!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2010): Please give him his space, I have a relationship with someone with kids also and when they visit him I back off as they are the most important to him and is the only time they have with each other. I just wish him he enjoy their company and when he's ready he can call or text me. Happy New Year by the way!
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reader, courtney24 +, writes (31 December 2010):
 i dont think he is intentionally blowing you off.. he just needs time with his son.. this situation is always complicated in the beginning of a new possible relationship. just give him some time. he will contact you. once you get to know each other better maybe he will invite you to hang out with his son with him.
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reader, jacinta  +, writes (31 December 2010):
 it think its definetly because of his son,hes his number one priority when hes taking care of him which is admirable,he seems interestd in you so i wouldnt stress about it.im sure hel get in contact when hes finishd his time wit his son.x
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