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writes:3 years ago my parents forbid me from seeing my bf. Weve been on and off since then. Hes 20 and Im about to be 18 in less than 6 months so theres really not much they can do about it.Im sick of sneaking around with him because I love him and I love my parents and I want them all to get along.We honestly dont even know why they forbid me to see him and it kills me and it kills him even more. My mom jus doesnt like him because of things my ex best friend from middle school told her and my dad jus goes along with what she says because hes my step dad. If anyone even mentions his name in my house, my mom goes on a tangent about how if she ever catches him on the street shell hurt him. I cant even say his name without getting grounded.I want her to know that I love him and 3 years without being able to be in a real relationship is long enough.Im afraid of what she might do though shes a little bit on the psycho side.I need advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2009): Well first impressions are sometimes wrong and she needs to realize this.
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reader, daangelizmi +, writes (26 August 2009):
daangelizmi is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh I also forgot to say, my mother only met him once for 5 minutes and she talked to him on the phone once or twice and then she out of nowhere decided we couldnt speak. When I say I have noooooo idea why she hates him, I mean it.
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reader, daangelizmi +, writes (26 August 2009):
daangelizmi is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo that girl is my ex bestfriend because she has no morals or values and I dont need someone like her in my life.She did a lot of dirty things to me and my family so we dont talk anymore.
Id also like to say this guy was my first love but ive had a few other long term relationships as well because me and him could never really be together.I always find my way back to him.
What I meant by her not being able to do much was her trying to press any charges against him or doing anything irrational to keep us apart.
Thank you all for the advice
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reader, Ifyoudontmind +, writes (25 August 2009):
There is no simple answer because you are young and as a direct result you are always right.This is your first love I take it, and believe it or not, parents are excellent judges of personality. I went through the same exact thing. My mom LOATHED one of my exes. I didnt understand it, I was in love and she and I were perfect.. blah blah blah.Long story short, she gave my best friend oral sex, slept with two guys in one night, fooled around with a third, and now has a child. Not so perfect right? really think about it, you need to see what other people exist and find out what you really need in a relationship. -IYDM
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reader, Tomuchlove  +, writes (25 August 2009):
Male 29 - I know this feeling all to well the only thing I would say to you is if you truly love him and he you love conkers all I really wouldnt care what other people think thats easy for me to say but if I loved someone so much no one would ruin that for me as I would always look back and wonder what if. . so love it is dont let anyone ruin it but its got to be love from him too of its not worth it.
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reader, karasu10 +, writes (25 August 2009):
 first of all, the fact that you're turning 18 doesnt change the rules in her house if you will still be living there. i am 18 and i just recently moved back in with my mom and i still have to follow her rules because its still her house. until you start paying for bills in her house, you have no say in the rules.
as for the guy, try and sit down with your mom to try and understand why he is such a problem. dont approach her with hostility. it looks as if you two need to make you relationship stronger. communication is key. just talk to her, alone, and no yelling! that will just cause more problems.
no matter what happens, your mom will love you and will try to understand what you're going through. good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): In this case, I'd advise you to keep keeping it a secret. However, why is this one girl your ex bf? Did your man do something to her? Or does she say that he did something to her?
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