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writes:(by the way I am a teenage boy)Ever since I was little I've been in love with guys (the same gender). It wasn't normal though. It was always guys in their middle ages (30-50) and a few select of them. I liked guys with beards, rugged features, pretty much I could only tell if I like them if I saw them. I never asked for this, actually I wished for the opposite. Every day of my life up to me being 14 now I've wished to be normal, love girls, act guyish. Nothing changes. Currently I'm in love with my math teacher. How do I know this? I know the feeling, I've had it before for other teachers and actors. They're always on my mind, I fantasize about them every night, I feel nervous around them, they fill me with joy just thinking about them, my stomach starts to feel weird. I just know that it's pretty much like falling in love. It goes away eventually though. It's like that for maybe a month to 5 months. After that I don't feel as nervous, or as in love, but I can still fantasize about them. (if I want to) Not only is he my math teacher, he's also my homework lab (a period for homework) teacher. He also teaches volley ball as well, and if I knew that earlier I'm sure that I would've tried out being able to see him everyday after school. Now that I know I'm even thinking of training for a year so I can join next year. I love him, but he's like 45 and he's married and has kids, I like to see him everyday, wearing shorts so I can see his fuzzy red-haired legs. I fantasize about his fuzzy chest, his warm body tucked around mine, just thinking about this gets my stomach feeling weird. All I really want to do I guess is share this with other people, and maybe there's some way I could fix myself, so I'm not falling in love with people that make impossible relationships.
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reader, maymay111 +, writes (24 March 2010):
First of all you are not weird you are normal! get that trew yore head! And being gay or bi is not that bad i would no! im 15 and i went threw the same things as you but! i fanisized about kids younger then me... well... No what its totally normale ok! if you dont want to be gay oh well you cant choose who you get sexully happy from! Sincerely: Maymay111
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2010): Whoaaa there... Ever since you were little? You're onli 14? Lols man when I was little I onli had crushes on girls but as I got to 14 ish? I started getting crushes on guys and now that I'm 18 I am pretty much bi tho it tends to fluctuate between girls and guys at different times lolWelll kiddo you're still young and it's hard to decide! Wait till you're older and maybe you'll find the girl? Lol you still have tons of time to figure this out so no worries! If you want to love girls and keep that thought up then maybe it will happen? Just try going out with a girl that you actually like and maybe she'll have some sorta effect on you? Just don't go out with someone you don't like! Good Luck x)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2010): sweetheart at your age i wouldn't say anything is definite or set in stone. i would say that your feelings will change many times in the next few years. leave your options open, don't label yourself. it may or may not be that you are gay, time will tell. until then spend time with friends of both sexes, try to relax and enjoy friendships and see what happens. once you categorize your self people tend to be judgemental and never let you forget. so just keep your own counsel and try to enjoy life as a teenager. there will be enough time to deal with the rest as you grow and mature. sufficient for the day are the evils thereof. don't borrow trouble, everyone has crosses to bear. you will survive, and life will be good again. there is fun and happiness to be found. good luck, mal
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reader, uncutdan +, writes (10 March 2010):
 well, your 14 so maybe its just confusion. Try both out and see what you're really interested in, maybe both sexes. There is nothing wrong with being gay or bi, you are normal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't want to be gay though. I want to love girls, if there is a god, why was I cursed with this?
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reader, uncutdan +, writes (9 March 2010):
Hey Buddy,
Yeah I agree with everyone else. its completely normal to have a crush and a fantasy about older guys when you're that age. Maybe its looking for that father figure, or maybe its cause you think he's hot in his volleyball shorts. But you should really look to find someone your own age. You'll find the right guy and he'll be a much better match. Definately watch out for oldheads just wanting to take advantage of you.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (9 March 2010):
 two things
1. you keep getting crushes for people you will never get because its less threatening. if it will never happen you dont have to deal with the unpredictable reality of a real relationship
2. you are looking for a father figure in these crushes (or so it seems to me). do you lack male role models in your life?
good luck but focus on people your own age for now until your older (19+) as older people who go for young teenagers are rarely in it for love, simply they are satisfying their own fetish for the very young. same with youngsters looking towards the old-its all about this idealised fantasy you have in your head. the problem is that real life never quite lives up to fantasy...
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (9 March 2010):
 Married lady nailed it. You're not in love. You have a CRUSH on your math teacher. By the sounds of it... your teacher is STRAIGHT... so sadly, there's DEFINITELY no way you'll even be able to live out our desire to be with him. And if he were gay... I would DEFINITELY tell you NOT to follow up on it. YOU don't want to be responsible for ruining HIS career.
You don't need to change your 'preference' for 'older' guys per say... just be aware that you won't be able 'act' on it until you are 18. There are LOTS of younger guys who prefer older guys and vice-versa.
I know this doesn't help a lot... but just bide your time. Maybe you'll hookup with someone your age... or... once you turn 18 you can meet the older guys that you're really seem to be attracted to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2010): please don't act on these feelings, you are a minor and as such could cause these men to loose their jobs. i think every young person probably has crushes on a teacher or a older person at some point in their life. i know that i did in my freshman year...aww the general math teacher Mr. P was just soooo cute that it made me wish i had taken general math instead of algebra. i still remember his wonderful smile however in only a matter of time he no longer made my "stomach feel weird." sadly he became last weeks crush and i went on to another. yes i did have some real feelings, my stomach really did feel weird, but i wasn't in love. in the teen years and sometimes even into the early twenties, there are those that we develop crushes on and become infatuated with. that's no necessarily a bad thing and it is perfectly normal, as long as you do not become a nuisance, or behave inappropriately toward these people. hope i have helped, mal
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2010): Okay. Don't think ur weird it's okay to b attracted to the other sex. Maybe u should try to pay attention to Boys ur age and its okay just try makin friends with other boys ur age
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