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writes:Just a quick question. I want to know would you think it was strange/weird if someone sends you a Facebook request when although you've chatted briefly you haven't exchanged names.Would you think it was odd how they managed to find out your name then send you a friend request? Or do many people do that now?
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reader, PeanutButter  +, writes (11 April 2014):
 It isn't too strange but it would be a little uncouth not to simply as the person for their name if you've chatted a few times already.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (11 April 2014):
 I would be curious as to who gave him your name or how he found out! It could be either flattering or stalkerish behaviour. Its hard to judge as you don't say how you met
I would just say sorry but I only add people I know well and ask him how he tracked you down.
If he really wants to get to know you he could of/can ask you on a date.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2014): For me, no. I'd see it as a person interested in me enough to find me online, nothing sinister. They found through public profiles I keep using information that's easily obtained.
It's not hard to find people online at all, to me it's like meeting someone in a bar if they contact me online.
I've often looked for people I only just met online to see who they are and what they like etc. We're in the age of information, people post theirs publicly online so why not have a peek?
I don't see it as any different to hoping you bump into that person you met in a bar by going to that bar again. The idea of social media is to be social. You don't have to accept friend requests, so they're no big deal.
But yeah, as a man maybe the rules are different for me. I don't get hassled by creepy women online, and I've never felt fear of women going out of their way to find out who I am. To me it doesn't represent the same kind of danger it may be to a woman. To it's just a sign of interest, like hoping to bump into someone again, but made better by the fact you can actually directly contact them instead.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (10 April 2014):
 Id say the older you are the more un-common it is. I find people who are older tend to just have close friends on facebook and maybe some family and other distant friends. I don't know many older people who just briefly chat to people and then become friends with them on facebook. However as I am in my teens, its very very normal for someone who i've just briefly met to add me on facebook or for me to add them. Some people see having lots of friends, as a kinda reward, even if they barely know the person so they add as many people as they know possible, while as others hope to become more friendly with a person they have briefly chatted with via the internet. So I wouldn't say its un-common, as in these days being friends with someone on facebook, doesn't really mean that your actually friends, half of my facebook is just acquaintances and I only speak to hand full of them. I just like to know what they are up to. Quack x
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reader, MSA +, writes (10 April 2014):
 I've had friends whom I've only met once through a mutual friend add me. Once I receive the friend request, I usually take a look at their FB page and then decide whether to add or not.
I can share a story tho... I had a friend from elementary school whom I hadn't seen for 10+ years because she changed schools and we lost contact. We weren't that close even back in elementary school. She somehow found me on FB and we reconnected. I'm so glad she took the initiative to reach out to me, if not, I wouldn't have such a great friend today!
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reader, CMMP +, writes (10 April 2014):
SVC's answer is pretty accurate. I've been surprised by who sends me fb requests, but some people just like having 700 friends. Its how they network.
If it is a stranger with no connection to you or your interests that you only spoke yo once that is unusual.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 April 2014):
 I think if we had mutual friends that it would be ok but if it's just someone i run into at a store or something then I would wonder why they tracked me down and be a bit concerned that they might not be too mentally stable (i.e. might be stalker material)
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