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writes:My husband is always trying to put things where they don't belong. I don't like THAT KIND of sex, but I feel bad for refusing him. Why does he like it so much? Can't he read the sign "exit only"??? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt is definitely the forbidden thing. Thanks for your insights!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (11 April 2011):
 Nothing wrong in saying no to anal. If you don't want to do, you don't want to do it.
I do agree that there are PLENTY of other ways to enjoy sex and spice up the sex life.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (11 April 2011):
 Could be he is interested in it simply because it is "forbidden". Perhaps you could divert his attention to something else that he shouldn't really be doing? Such as having sex in places where you might get caught, or doing other dirty business you shouldn't, or normally don't?
Be clear about this with him though: anal sex will never happen! Do not try it! Ever!
And then offer something else to do instead? Having sex in the car? In the office? On the kitchen table? 10 minutes before the kids/in-laws are coming through the door? In the garden at night? Or just when the mood feels right, and you really shouldn't, but the temptation is too strong?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2011): If it is not something you are interested in then he should be respectful of that. On the other hand some women like anal sex. My gf absolutely loves it.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (11 April 2011):
 I have a theory about that; men who have small penises often feel "lost" inside a woman's vagina, especially if she's had kids and not as tight as he needs. The exit only opening is much tighter, thus they will be BIG in there and not lost. However it's tight for a reason. It's meant to hold things in and once you lose that elastic sense, you will have great difficulty keeping things from falling out (which is probably why so many gay men have to wear Depends). Maybe if you explain this to him he'll realize the magnitude of what could happen to you. Try doing those Kegal muscle exercises to tighten up your vagina and make it more sensual for him. Above all, don't give in if you don't find it appealing. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2011): I agree with the rule, if you can do it to me then I can do it to you. Basically never ask someone to do something you won't do yourself.
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reader, here_2_help  +, writes (11 April 2011):
 It may just be curiosity, try talking to him about you not wanting anything like that....all else fails introduce the whole what ever you do to me I do to you rule. That should cool him off!!! Don't feel bad if you don't like something, but experiment with new things you may like...this could just be his way of "spicing up the sex life"Hope this helps :-)
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reader, Batterytea +, writes (11 April 2011):
 I'm sure he respects your wishes if you tell him nicely that you're just not into anal. You guys ARE married, so you must've been in bigger disagreements than just a measly one like this :) Don't feel bad, it happens to a lot of people.
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