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writes: I need help please I'm so in love with my ex and I can't even think about living with out her right now we are just friends and talks to me like nothing happened and like me feeling sad and even crying in front of her many times I just don't know what to do I am in love I only want her in my life but I know yall think oh I am to young I'll have another chance and what not but I don't think that ever happen in a world where almost everyone is shallow everyone what's that hot guy or the rich man but I am not rich or and far from hot. I only loved one girl and that is the only girl I want to love she doesn't love me at all but yet she still wants to stay close but she says nothing in this world can change her mind so please help me I want to be with her so bad I feel she is so right for me when we were together she made me feel so happy now without her I just feel lost and hit rock bottom yet she is completely ok with it but I want to do everything I can just get back with her so what can I do even though she said nothing could change her mind please I need help the pain hurts so much I need help!
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reader, LovelessAct1  +, writes (22 December 2010):
As its been stated in other comments, and my previous one, a LOT of people have been exactly where you are. They think that no one else will ever replace them in your heart; that they were the "one" and had things another girl could never give you. I've definitely been there, time and time again.But, once again, try your best to move forward. If she WAS the one, she wouldn't have made her decision. You are both still so so young and your hearts and minds will constantly be changing for years. You'll both make choices that represent maturity, immaturity, understanding, and a complete lack of sense.Trust me, you'll find another who's your "ideal type." A lot of us on this forum have been through the same pain, and we can tell you that keeping your head up, your heart open, your friends close, and your mood in check will get you back on the path much sooner. Look forward to what other great things life has for you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all of your answers but I have seen that she is everything I want in a girl and no one else is like her how can I possibly get over that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2010): at this point the pain you feel is irreversible so you would never love her as before and unconsciously you would slaughter her heart. Move on to much damage has been done to you by her.
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (21 December 2010):
There are a lot of those who have been where you are, including me; you definitely are not alone. I'm confident enough to say that it will get better. Slowly.
One big thing here is to stop thinking about her as "the one." The more you put her on the pedestal, the more you'll think about her, the more you'll want to talk to her, and the more difficult it will be to move on. And by the way, moving on IS the best option. There is way too much heartache involved in sitting around waiting for someone to change their mind. Don't do that to yourself.
I highly recommend giving yourself as much distance from her as you can right now. She obviously still cares for your friendship, as she told you she wants you close, but doing so will only make you feel worse. Take a long break from seeing her or talking to her. Maybe in a few weeks/months, you'll feel well enough to talk to her again on a friend basis.
I'm very sorry to say that its over, but it is. She's made up her mind, and like you said, she won't budge on it. Take your dignity while you still can and be the bigger person; wish her the best in life and move on. Maybe down the road you can have a good friendship, but for now your best bet is to move forward without her in your life.
The best of luck, truly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2010): You don't believe it right now but you will get over it. She will always be special - as first loves always stay in you heart. The old song 'first cut is the deepest' says it all. But you will meet other girls through the coming years and you will fall in love again. I'm afraid it's a pain you will just have to suffer for now, but you will come out the other side. But at 16/17 you don't believe you'll ever feel that way again.
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reader, CaptainObvious +, writes (21 December 2010):
 What really sucks hard is that I understand where you're coming from and can offer nothing but platitudes.
See, I *know* you'll get through this - probably several times before you find The One.
And years of experience will give you perspective.
Which doesn't do jack for you right now.
What also is hard at your age is that you probably go to school with her.
I was lucky.
My first love was a wonderful 16 year old when I was 14.
We moved 3000 miles, so at least I wasn't aware until many years later that she hooked up with my best friend two weeks after we moved.
Buck up, little camper, don't be sad
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2010): What a blast to the past. Happened to me to and I'd go through the hell a trillion times over if that's what it was going take to share in love with my bestest love of all. This is going to happen for you and when it does you will be so happy that girl wouldn't bend. The best love of all is yet to come!
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