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writes:I've already had a question regarding the break up of me and my girlfriend of 3 years. I now have a problem i'm dealing with. We've been apart for a week and 2 days now. 2 days ago, she started dating this guy. I accept that, but I continue to keep on thinking about him and her having sex. And it bothers me and quite frankly, pisses me off. I think it's because I miss having sex with her. I mean, we've been together for over 3 years now and some other guy is taking care of her. She says that they haven't and that she doesn't love him, she just likes him. But how am I supposed to know or not? I'm not there with them. Does anyone have any suggestions for me to stop thinking about this so much? All I can think of is my girl who I loved for so long, getting F***** by some other guy. I know it's not my business whether they are or not, but it's the thoughts about it that bother me so much. Reply to this Question
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reader, Savai +, writes (22 October 2009):
Savai is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe used to lie to me about little things so that I didn't get mad at her, got mad when I found out though. I'm sick of all the bullshit she's put me through, she may not have slept with him yet, but I know that she's been seeing him for more than 5 days now. 5 days after the break up they began dating. Because he was there to comfort her, wtf ever. My daughter doesn't deserve this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2009): Does your ex have a history of lying to you? If not, you need to take her at her word (even though you have no right to ask her what she's doing). After a 3 year relationship, I doubt she's already jumping into bed with someone else, so please calm your ass down. You say you know and accept the reason she broke up with you; are you working to address these issues? Focusing on yourself and the areas of your life that need improvement is a first step to take if you want to stop thinking about who she's doing.
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reader, Savai +, writes (21 October 2009):
Savai is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLike I said, she told me that she wasn't ready to have sex yet. She's just taking it slow with this guy, but once again, how do I know that if they are or not. I know it's none of my business but it's extremely hard to keep out of my mind because I still do love this girl. And if things work out with me and her, it'll make it even harder for me if I knew she slept with him. We are good friends now, but I know this guy isn't better for her than I am. Not being biased or anything but it's just one of those things that you can side with yourself on.
I know it can't be because of sex as the reason why she broke up with me. It's other reasons that I know and accept. But like I said, it's very frustrating to think about that, even though I know she's not that type of girl.
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reader, Anadin  +, writes (21 October 2009):
 honestly, iv been through this kind of thing before, its not nice. thing is though you gotta think why you guys broke up, have you got all your answers? you need to stop asking her about this guy, it will tell her you are jealous if you carry on trying to pry, also it means you dont have any ugly bits of information wich will be harmful to you.
another point i want to make is that if shes really over you and having sex so soon after a relationship, she really isnt all she is cracked up to be, i dont know the circumstances, but my assumption tells me so.
also do you want friendship with her once you have gotten over eachother? if so i think you should try and have a couple of months to yourselves, try and cut down on contact if you can, and cut out seeing eachother completely for a few months untill you feel you are getting over her, and ready to truely accept her new relationship. once you have done this, ask her out for a coffee or meer up and bring the contact back up, then you can move on as friends
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reader, bitch +, writes (21 October 2009):
Ok, you have to let it go. You are not with her anymore and what she does for now on is none of your business. I am sorry you are hurting. I know this is awful and like torture. It will get easier in time. If she is not with you right now there is a reason. If she is with somebody else there is a reason as well. Why did you guys end the relationship? What happened in your relationship that would make her want to end it with you or vise versa?
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