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writes:Hey everyone,So my girlfriend is 17 years old and i'm 19.Everyone keeps saying that it's not right for us to be dating because she is under 18. I don't think it's a big deal but I was wondering what you all think. So do you think it's okay or is it wrong? Reply to this Question
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reader, JGSM  +, writes (13 December 2010):
 I must say something so please read.
In Sweden the age limit of having sex is 15. And that is not because the state think they know when everybody are ready to have sex. That limit is to protect under-aged youths from older people. Do you understand? So if the age limit is 18... and she is 17 and you are 19. In Sweden that would not be a question in court. Because nothing wrong is happening. The law is to protect minors from adults. And this girl can be much mature than you anyways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2010): Without knowing how things are in Puerto Rico it would be difficult to answer. In this country (UK) it would be ok.
Ask them why they are saying it is wrong. Maybe there is an age of consent if sex comes into it; if so, make sure you don't have sex, and keep to public places so you can't get up to anything!
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reader, No watered down advice here!  +, writes (8 December 2010):
 MY GOD the girl is 17! NOT 13. NOT 15! She's almost 18!!! And what's the BIG deal? SMH! People always have something to say when they see other people HAPPY! I don't see anything wrong with it! Most YOUNG couples are 2 to 3 years apart in age. I know my first love was 17 and I was 15! You do the math! We were together when he was 19 and I was 17 too! AND YES!!! People talked then also...LOL!
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reader, confusoholic  +, writes (8 December 2010):
 What crap...how do two years here and there matter.
Just go ahead with it...and pay no heed to what others say. Just make sure you don't do anything which is illegal...regarding the consent age.
Otherwise...you guys seem to be happy and i hope you continue to be so! XOXO
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2010): nothing at all wrong with that! she's only two years younger than you.
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reader, sue90  +, writes (8 December 2010):
very theoretically it is illegal for you two to get married and have children (until she's 18). I'm not sure how it is in your country, but in most countries it is not illegal to be dating someone over 16. If you want to be with her, be with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2010): Well you're hardly a paedophile, are you!
I was 16 and my boyfriend was 21 when we dated. I can understand the different opinions on THAT matter, as I've experienced. But as you get a little older a 4 and a half/5 year age gap between you is nothing, as I've also experienced. ESPECIALLY a two year gap like you and your girlfriend. You're practically the same age.
It never stopped us from dating anyway, as we were so happy. Like it shouldn't stop the pair of you from dating if you're happy. If you really like each other, then that's all that matters.
If you're both legal to have sex and you're not like a million years older than her then I don't see the problem at all. Realist is right, you've both practically got the same maturity levels at that age. I don't see anything wrong with it at all.
Perhaps who ever said this to you just don't like this girl, or they are jealous of you having a girlfriend or something?
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (8 December 2010):
 As far as I know sex is legal for the two of you so there is nothing wrong with the relationship there. I find it to be very common that a guy dates a younger girl and two years is nothing for an age difference. Don't listen to those people, all that matters is that you two are happy. At that age the maturity levels are pretty much the same as well.
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reader, tamtam +, writes (8 December 2010):
It's only wrong if that's the only reason you're dating her for.. (because she's young)
I don't see why everyone else is making such a big deal about it since you're only two years apart. Or perhaps they think it's "wrong" because she's still in high school and you're in college?
I don't know about where you're from since laws are different everywhere but just make sure you don't do anything illegal if she's under the consent age. You may think it's fine and everything but if she's under consent age and something happens, her parents would be able to push for charges too.
Otherwise, as long as you're happy and she's happy, then you should just ignore everyone else =)
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