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anonymous
writes:My partner and i have been together a year and a half. things have been far from easy, i've let him control and manipulate me for as long as i can remember but he's got a way of making me think that everything's my fault. i've cut off a lot of female friends and recently started seeing them again which he has been funny about. last week i had a few drinks in the afternoon, he picked me up early evening and started shouting at me 'who have u been with, i know you've been with other men etc.... why have u been drinking....' i was so upset and angry that he was speaking this way to me. i ripped his top and scratched him, he then flagged down a police car and i was put in a cell for 16 hours. i'm so sad and can't believe after everything that i still want him back, i don't know what's wrong wit me.i called him today (first time since it happened five days ago) he said he doesnt want me back but if we are going to remain in contact then a few months have to pass by.he's already arranging his summer when we both had a month off work to spend together. i can't work him out.i love him even though i've been mentally tormented for the last 2 years. how do i get him back and go back to the way things used to be ? Reply to this Question
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (28 June 2010):
 Please, don't be so foolish! I don't mean to be harsh, but there's nothing good in the way this man treats you.
Get help - as the other two responders have said - with your issues, and consider your own dignity. Nobody deserves - or should put up with - a jerk like him!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (28 June 2010):
You will ruin your life if you go back to him. You really will. He has destroyed you. You've been hurt, controlled, manipulated, arrested, you've lost friends, he shouts at you. The list is endless. Going back to him would be like knocking on the door of the big bad wolf asking for even more pain. You really need to sit down and address your own issues. You seem to have hugely low esteem, no confidence and you seem to feel unloved. You need to see a counsellor and really try to understand who you are and why you picked a man like this. But for God's sake don't go back to him. He won't change into a nice guy. He just won't. He is an abuser, plain and simple. You need to look at your own life and cut him out of it.
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