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writes:Hi all, thanks in advance for the advice. xxI have a friend that I met online 2 or so years ago and we talk almost everyday. She told me that she is a lesbian so I can not help but harmlessly flirt with her ocassionly. However, recently, I've found myself flirting a lot more with a her and I'm not sure if I am just doing it as a joke anymore. I have a boyfriend and I've never considered that I'd might be bi. I'm so confused. Am I cheating on him? The online girl also wants to meet up but I'm unsure on whether I should because I've grown imense feelings for her. advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2010): I recon you should meet up with her (remember in a PUBLIC place, don't risk anything it's not worth it, even if you are 99.9% certain she is who she says she is!!). People you meet online can often seem to be better than they really are, perhaps you're falling for the person that you think she may be, but then when you meet up with her, you have no feelings for her at all. If you find that you do like her, don't do anything with her until you've broken up with your boyfriend - cheating is just ridiculous. Good luck :-) xx
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reader, ttunipp  +, writes (28 June 2010):
 Meet up with her IN PUBLIC AND BE SAFE. See how it goes if you want to take things further then respect your boyfriend and leave him before you do anything with anyone else. You are young these are the years that you will be finding yourself. Don't be afraid to experiment. Just try not to hurt anyones feelings too bad.
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (28 June 2010):
 Harmless flirting is just that, harmless. However, if you are developing feelings for her and are involved emotionally, then yes... you are entering "cheating" territory. Especially if you feel the need to keep all of this from your boyfriend and even meet secretly.
I'm not sure what to advise except maybe to follow your heart. I don't suggest cheating, but it may not hurt to at least meet this girl and talk in person as friends. If you want to possibly take things further, then you should be honest and open with your boyfriend about the whole situation before doing anything else.
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