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writes:I have been with my partner for 14 years. We have been engaged for 8 years and lived together for 7 years. Over the last 6-8 months my feelings for him have changed - I no longer love him! I don't have any conversation with him and I don't want him near me! I am soooo miserable! How do I tell him I no longer love him and want to split up!
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (20 July 2010):
 Was it you who PM'd me? If so, I'd wait to get into another relationship. You need some real alone time to get over all the emotions you'll have after ending such a long relationship. You'd just be dooming yourself if you jump into a rebound.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for advice - I know in my heart that I have to tell him but really struggling. I think I have feelings for someone else - but he has just entered a new relationship!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 July 2010):
 I think you should tell him. What's the point of settling into a potential unhappy marriage?
You BOTH deserve to be happy and loved.
I agree with dirtball... What DID happen in the last year or so for your feeling to do a 180?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (20 July 2010):
I don't blame you for wanting out. 8 years is a long time for nothing to happen, so you're making the right decision, I'm sure of that. No more time wasting.
How to tell him? Sit him down, and explain that things have changed and that it's over. Be honest. There's nothing else you can do.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (20 July 2010):
You just tell him. There is no way to sugar coat it. Sometimes you just need to be bluntly honest. My question is, what changed in the last 6-8 months that caused this drastic change?
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