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writes:I'm eighteen yeast old. I have a real big desire to get pregnant with my boyfriend. I don't know what to do. I've tried keeping myself busy but it doesn't seem to work. We've only been together for a short while. But it's not the relationship that bothers me, it's the fact that I really want a child.
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reader, ashie31  +, writes (17 November 2010):
Honey your 18 years old and you have your whole life ahead of you to have children. enjoy your life and your career your time will come dont get tied down right now
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2010): child im thirty years old with five kids just cause he say he love you mean have his baby what if u dont work out with him you stuck with a baby he gone on with the next chick please I Have anyone to tell me that i found out the hard way so please listen to someone
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reader, Natalie:)  +, writes (15 November 2010):
 You might want a baby but remember one day that baby will grow up and be a teenager like you, one day it will be 30!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2010): think carefully i have friends and cousins of my own age that have kids and they can't do much for themselves, go out with their boyfriends, afford many things.
if you had a child what could you offer it? what job have you got to support it? if your boyfriend leaves you how stuck are you going to be ? what house have you got is it your own?
try and fight this urge because even though you are broody now , you could have postnatel depression, early scaring that wont go away because your body is not ready, and long term problems for yourself.
you want to have a baby when you are fully secure, financially, happy with yourself , independant from your family, and in a longterm relationship by this i mean more than a year.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2010): tasteofindia has a great idea!! do that!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (15 November 2010):
 Here is my suggestion. I was an 18 year old who was dyyyiinnng for babies, but still knew logically that I was too young. Well logic has a hard time completing with the maternal urge, right?
So I bought a big plastic bin and then every time I went baby crazy, I would just go out and buy something for a baby. Baby shoes, socks, onesies - hey, the baby STUFF is the cutest of it all. Even diapers! Hey, it's not like you won't use them down the line.
And in the meantime, start a journal for your future baby. Talk about what you're going through as a young woman, write down any advice, observations on life, thoughts or just how much you love your future kid. Trust me, it will be a gift down the road that they cherish forever.
There is plenty of time to have children. For now, cherish the peace in your life and the true independence you have. Once a baby comes along, you'll have no more time and freedom to go shopping when you like, take the classes you're interested or go on random adventures with your boyfriend. Take advantage of your youth! Also, start saving up money... the more you save, the easier your life will be in the long run.
Good luck, sweetness!
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reader, dmartin89 +, writes (15 November 2010):
 I can imagine how you feel.
I'm 21 and have been with my other half for 2 years and I desperately want a child. However I have to keep reminding myself that I am too young and don't have enough life experience. I'm not earning enough money to afford a child yet. Although I could quite easily get pregnant and live off benefits, I don't want my child to be brought up that way.
What I do to keep my mind off it, is get into something I'm passionate about, like giving advice on here :-) Also I go to the gym, watch my favorite tv shows, cook nice dinners for my other half and I'm training to be a Hypnotherapist and a Doula (professional birth companion).
Do all those things you cant to with a child, get them out the way now before you have one.
I love salsa dancing, and I keep reminding myself how difficult it would be to go just once a week for an hour with a child. You would have to feed and bath it before you leave, find a suitable babysitter, which are expensive, you would most likely be worrying about a baby when you go out and then you are properly too tired to dance properly because of lack of sleep!!
You/we have plenty of time left to have a child.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2010): Its perfectly natural for you to feel broody. Talk it over with your man. Hopefully he'll understand. If not, think it over in your head-are you ready to be a mum? Maybe there's someone trustworthy you can talk to in your family if your not sure what to do. :)
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