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writes: My boyfriend asked me to dress in something sexy before we..."play".....but other then langerie what else is there? Earlier today he asked me if him and one of his friends could..."play" with me....um..what do I say? I wouldnt really mind it... but then again I don't really like the idea.... help? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI left him.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am thinking of leaving him.... but..... i just dont really know. I mean when we first met, he was wonderful....after he actually knew more about me, things went down hill. He knew i was bi, but im not into messn around with other guys... girls sure, i dont mind. The more i think about it...Cupids, your right...i should tell him to piss off, i deserve better!
Thanks a bunch!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2008): ps: There is nothing wrong by being turned on by sexy games. But when the guy is right, when you've been together a long time, when your older, when you know he loves you, when you are sure he respects you and will make sure that everything is done in a safe manner, then you can play. This guy is not like that, he wanted to use you, and he didn't care about your reputation, he didn't respect or love you at all. Sex play with others is always dangerous, and a real man who loves you would never, ever get angry if you said NO..... Don't be ashamed of your fantasies, but take it from me, the reality is always embarrassing and always goes wrong....
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2008): Guys that get mad, when you refuse to "play" sex games are no good. Your guy doesn't love you, he just wants to use you. Please dump him and find somebody that will treat you nicer than him. He's a bastard, a user. He wanted to pass you around like a little doll.. Good for you, for turning him down. Tell him to "piss off", cause your young, beautiful, and intelligent, you can find a better boyfriend in a minute. You deserve much more respect than this boy is showing to you. If he and his friend want a sex object, tell them to spend money and hire a prostitute. You did good girl, we are so proud of you.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI didnt do it..... now hes mad... oh well
Thank You Cupids
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2008): hey
i agree with what every1 else has been saying he is just treating you as asex object
you make like the idea of it
but then its may give you some consequences that you really dont want
hope things go okay
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reader, RON_499  +, writes (8 November 2008):
 frankly your boyfriend sucks. he doesn't treat you like you are his girlfriend at all. hes treating you like an object of sex like emily said.i suggest that you dump that guy and start searching for someone decent. he's not worth it so just forget about him okay.....
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (8 November 2008):
He does seem to treat you to a sex object that he can tell what to wear and pass round to his friends.
Do not do anything you aren't comfortable with because NO man is worth that.
Do you really want to be with a guy like this?
In my opinion, a guy who loves you would never ever want to share you.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, babomi  +, writes (8 November 2008):
 refuse
assess his past and current behavior: if you feel, even remotely, he has no interest for you other than sex, and does not show you the respect and consideration you deserve ... ditch him
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reader, asian tealeaf  +, writes (8 November 2008):
 i would be a little wary about ur bfs passing u around as a plaything to his friends.... u are NOT a plaything nor something to be objectified. he uses the word play? was he ever molested or sexually abused in some shape of form before? while this all sounds like harmless play, id be wondering a little more about his fetishes and why they turn him on. id tell him u think him passing u off to his buddy like a cup of tea at a tea party is not treating u with respect. but while he may look at u like ur a prude, hes just a young buck whos got a LOT of growing up to do. id like to pass him off to some prison inmates and let them have a tea party of their own with him. im sure their idea of play might be a little rough, but, um, its just harmless childsplay, right?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2008): You say what you feel: if you don't like the idea, don't do the threesome. Only do what you're *at least* comfortable with, and preferably enjoy, or there may well be bad consequences for your relationship. Threesome isn't worth that. Your bf can beg/cajole/plead/etc all he wants, but if you don't want to - you just don't.
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