Dysfunctional Relationships

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Article - (4 December 2009)

5 Comments - (Newest, 1 January 2010)

A female age 30-35, KiaGrace writes:

A couple of weeks ago, I was in a place some of you girls might be in right now. For about a year, I was placed in a dysfunctional relationship. Eventually, I got use to the abusive cycle and no matter how much I was exhausted, no matter how much I said I would never go back, I always did.

My family, my friends and all of my love ones, told me over again, that I shouldn't be with him. I didn't listen. They just didn't understand, and even though they tried everything in their will power to keep us apart. We did everything we could to be together. We were so 'in love'

But what I didn't realize is that these people are hurting, while you are hurting to. They can see that they are being beat down and torn apart, mentally and physically and they really only want the best for you. I couldn't see it then, but I see it now.

I had to make a choice. It's never to late to get out of the relationship. I know you're scared of the heart break, because I was to. I didn't know how to be without him, I was so use to him. Use to that life style, I really didn't believe that anybody else would love me like he would. They brainwash you.

I decided enough was enough. I am just young myself, and do I really want to waste another year or even the rest of my life, with this guy? My answer is no and I know your mind is pleading you to stop hurting yourself, to just walk away. But your heart is screaming no.

But ask yourself this, would you rather be unhappy for the rest of your life with this guy? or would you rather just be unhappy for a little while, until time heals the pain and you can learn to move on?

Now, that I have walked away for good, I feel so much better. I feel like I have accomplished something and I am proud of myself everytime I don't answer his calls, or speak to him at all, everyday it gets easier and easier. If you are in the right mindset and you believe that you can make it without them. You will do it.

Now, as I re-enter the real world, many other guys are interested in me. Which, I never thought in a million years could ever happen. But when you are in a dysfunctional relationship, you are under there spell. It's like truly seeing a new world and I'm just looking up and feeling better then ever.

Two weeks sober of my ex boyfriend.

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A male reader, The Answer to all your agony +, writes (1 January 2010):

I have a friend that is precisely in the same situation like you and the a million more people out there who are also dealing with a Dysfunctional relationship because. I am proud to what you have done so far, but you must not forget: 2 weeks or 1 month is not sufficient enough to make a statement that you have successfully abandoned him. I sense a feeling of someone that wants to be wanted. You must give your heart some time to heal and it will take an enormous time of your life. But, eventually the pain is not there anymore and by then you can Finally say. I'm over it. And you know what?..You can make the healing process faster too. FORGIVENESS..I know, after all the pain and misery that you went through, Forgiveness seems to be hard to give. But, its a proven medications that speed up the healing.