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*fogalilly
writes:I had a so called "One Night Stand" a week ago, we did not have sex, but it got really intimate. He was really drunk and I had drank three beers which was my limit. I was worried about this guy because he did not have a ride home so I gave him a ride home, the car ride was interesting seeing as he tried to take his pants off, and I had a horrible time trying to make him pull them up and get him out of my car. I never should have made sure he got inside okay seeing as he grabbed my ass and I jerked his keys away from him then dropped them and I bent over and picked them up. The one thing I cannot remember is who initiated the kissing, I did not take advantage of this guy, yeah I have known him for a few months, we're the same age and have some things in common and hell I even liked him for awhile but figured well he probably would never like me back. I even sought out another blog and I was accused of many things, I honestly was just trying to make sure he got home in one piece. I know he is a jerk, and I was so afraid that he would chew me out again that I was dishonest with him, I feel really bad about it too, I want to go see him face to face so I can tell him how sorry I am. I feel like a real bitch, and my emails were cold because I just did not want to get hurt again. I just feel really bad and afraid it was my fault. What should I do?
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reader, ffogalilly +, writes (30 June 2009):
ffogalilly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, I finally called him, and it went about the way I thought it would. He figured that something had happened when I was not there, when he woke up and I was cold in my emails. He also said that is not a way to start a relationship, I just said that I knew and understood, and that he wanted things to go back the way they were, and I just told him that I do not beg. Obviously he does this pretty regularly, this was my second time. He said that he does stupid things all the time. I am not upset, well a little, but it does not hurt so bad. I had to go home, or I would've had to answer a lot of questions seeing as I still live at home with my parents, they can be nosy. So I thought that I would update everyone on my story, thanks for the advice!
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (29 June 2009):
 hey talk to him find out what the hell went on that night.
tell him you want to know what went on and you're right in not getting your hopes up , but talk to him and find out otherwise you'll never know what could be.
if you feel he is a jerk and you don't like him then don't go there but if you feel he's a jerk but i know him and he's better than that then go for it find out.
don't feel like a bitch about it i mean it's happened before you're just setting yourself not to get hurt again and too right you shouldn't you're number 1 and should look after number one.
anyways talk to him find out what he meant by it all and it wasn't your fault at all!!!
never think like that!
Hope this helps hun x ilovebowsandcherries x
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (29 June 2009):
 Sounds like he was too drunk to notice anyway. I can't see what you did that was so wrong and you sent a few cold emails that you felt you needed to do to protect yourself emotionally you have a right to do that. The only person who thinks badly of you is yourself, your are over analysing the situation and should just let it go. He should be lucky he got the chance to grab your ass, sounds like a lucky guy.
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