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writes:recently i've been feeling very lonely. i feel like the only person i can hang around with is my boyfriend, not because he's too protective but because i don't have many friends.the popular girls in my school get on with me, but just as friends, not best mates, so i don't know if i dare start hanging around with them, plus my boyfriend hates them because they are 'slags'. my best friend lives quite a way away so i don't see her outside school, and now that school is over i'm scared i'll have no one if i for some reason split up with my boyfriend. there's a group of girls and boys i fell out with about a year ago and so had to hang around with other people which i found difficult. i don't know how to really act with people at college cos i don't want to talk to anyone i already talk to. they'll be my boyfiend there and a few other lad mates i have. but my bestfriend isnt going there so it's a new start.i'm going to try and talk to people on myspace and stuff that i know, but i'm scared they'll think they're too good for me.any advice?thankyou in advance x
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reader, TheAgonyAunt +, writes (25 June 2009):
 I am in the exact same situation! I do have friends but I don't feel like they are best friends. I have one best friend that I rarely see and I usually stick with my boyfriend because he's like my bestfriend as well as boyfriend, I love him and I'm scared without him there's noone else I could be with. Also I am a naturally shy person so I thought it almost impossible to make friends.
Advice that I've recieved is to try and join some clubs on something your interested in because you will have something in common with them. :) also social networking sites are a good way to get to know some people that you know better =)
I am trying these and so far they seem to be going good :)
Good luck and I hope my answer helped!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2009): as you said college is a new start so its a chance to meet new people and make new friends so be confident. :)
good luck,
fingers crossed you will make friends in college
p.s, stay in touch with your best friend
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reader, xxbaybeegal +, writes (25 June 2009):
 Well college is a good place to make friends and since your already going there then why not make new mates.
If your too shy then you can probably find some of them on facebook/myspace/bebo. It really isn't that hard
Maybe you should approach people in your classes because you can't be no mates for ever.
Keep in contact with the people you went secondary school with and maybe that could be a start
Good Luck
BBG-x
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reader, Rebbie  +, writes (25 June 2009):
I know how you feel... there was a time, when I moved here I had to leave all my friends behind, and here I had no one. I've been on my own for quite a while, 3-4 years. It was quite difficult for me too because all the groups were already made and whenever I'd try to fit in they'd push me away by ignoring me. But, of course not everyone is like that, there might be people who would welcome you into their lives with arms wide open... With the years I found friends...of course it does take some time...but maybe there's a person who's waiting for YOU to make the first move!! Maybe someone is lonely too, like you are...but maybe that person is also shy...All you need is maybe a little more self-confidence and a little push in the backI hope this helped you...
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