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male
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30-35,
*xalon
writes:There is this shy girl, who is the sister of one of my best friends, who lately seems to be showing some interest in me. I know she liked me in the past because one time she kissed me and said “I love you”. However, that was at least six years ago and was before my friend and I had a brief period where we didn’t hang out. Here is the evidence I have to support my claim:1. Sometimes she looks at me when she thinks I’m not looking at her.2. When we do look at each other, she mimics the expression on my face, then looks down or walks away.3. This one sorta relates to #1. From time to time, when she looks at me and I look at her, she doesn’t look away. One time, I was sitting on the couch and I was talking to her Mom and my Mom. I happened to glance over at her and I saw her looking directly at me, smiling, with her tongue hanging out to the side.4. If I try talking to her, she acts surprised, turns her head toward me to answer my question, then after she is done, she quickly looks away. She talks to my parents’ without hesitation. 5. On one off day, she was in an elated mood and actually said “hi” to me excitedly. Later that day, I asked her a question and she didn’t hear me and/or was surprised, but she looked straight into my eyes and held that stare until I repeated myself.6. A few times before she went to bed, she said “Good Night” to me before saying it to anyone else and when she did say it to someone else it was quieter and less enthusiastic.7. At times I can hear her talking to her parents’ (mostly her Mom) about me. One instance is when she asked her Mom; “how come he didn’t say much to me.” This was in regards to the time I said “hi, how are you” to her.8. Her friends’ act differently around me. Example: At her birthday back in 2007, I could hear her friends’ talking about me. A couple of times they even glanced back at me with smiles on their faces.9. She told her brother information about the game he was playing. I responded for him. She didn’t say a word, just tried to avoid my eyes.10. If I wave to her when I see her in the car with her Mom, she gets fidgety.11. One time I saw looking at me at the dinner table. When I looked over, I noticed she was blushing.What makes me think otherwise…1. On two occasions she frowned at me. The first time she looked she did it, she looked down at the floor afterwards. The second time it was almost like she was mocking me. 2. She tries to avoid me, sometimes by taking the long route to get to where she wants to go. One time she sat in front of me at the dinner table, but when she saw her brother, she asked him if he wanted to sit there. Then she walked away groaning.3. She doesn’t let me touch her. Example: I was in the car with her family and her brother reached over to poke me. She happened to be sitting in between us. As I began to reach behind her to poke him back, she leaned forward, even though she was in the middle of playing her Game Boy Advance. She didn’t do that when her brother reached over.4. Years ago, she would spy on her brother and I from the stairs leading into the basement. For a while I thought that meant something, but I recently asked her brother whether or not she also used to do this to his other friend. He said yes.5. Her Mom also shows some of the signs that I mentioned above (hardly looking at me when talking to me, ignoring me). I know for sure she doesn’t like me in that way.
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reader, Heartbroken in love +, writes (24 January 2010):
Your reading too much into it. Be a man and put urself out there. Dnt be a dog and dnt come off like a horn dog. If she seems to be flirting w you flirt back. If u leave her hangin that will just make flirt less as she will thnk ur not interested. Flirting back encourages her to do more. Its a game so play it.
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reader, Sal84  +, writes (24 January 2010):
 Looks like you have a case here. It seems that this girl was trying to give you the bait and you did not take it. I can also see that most of your scenes are like from a silent movie, which means no dialogues or very less.You should start talking more and be very casual(Start with Everyday Greetings).Treat her like one of the guys, that way you wont have that Dazed look in your eyes when you speak to her.You can speak on various topics but ignore love and relationship talk or you'll sound like a wuss. Gradually you can ask her for her email id and while she is writing it down for you, tell her to write her mobile number as well:-)Once you can figure she like spending time with you, start being unpredictable, cocky & funny and don't give direct answers to her questions, take the lead and dont be lead-if she says we should go here, tell her no I think this other place is better we should go there.Be the 1st to close the conversation always.That way you'll leave her wanting for more.Women are looking for leaders in men, the show that they want to lead on top but from inside they are craving to be lead.Which means avoid leaning on them for anything and never ask questions, like should we do this or shall we go there? Women want men who know what they want so be like that.
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