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writes:Hey eveyone, just so you know right from the begining, I'm 15 and gay. Im still in the closet about the whole thing. Now, my mum always makes the comment of, "you will make your wife very happy" or "you will make your girlfriend really happy" just so where clear on this she means further down the track I will make my wife happy. But the other day she said " you will be such a great husband you will make your wife.... Or boyfriend very happy."Do you think that she has figured out that I am gay or was it just a generalization. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2009): this is exactly what happened to me (im 15 and gay too) but my mom did this exact thing, then a few weeks later, she talked to me and said she knew and that she still loved me blah blah blah lolits a good sign though
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reader, loving arms  +, writes (6 February 2009):
she's giving you a message that she loves and accepts you whatever. You are a very lucky person. I wish more kids had a lovely mum like yours.
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reader, theambassador +, writes (6 February 2009):
Mate,
She is waiting for you to tell her, most mums would throw out a line like this just to gauge the reaction.
You would probably be just as well talking to her about it, you would be surprised how supportive mum's can be about such things with their gay children.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009): Your Mum sounds great and is maybe giving you an opening to tell her??????
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (2 February 2009):
 Sounds like she is getting the picture. I would have a talk with her, doesn't seem like she is going to judge you harshly and if you are going to come out, you are going to need all the support you can get.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009): Your mom is great she doesn’t judge you and she is supportive of you so get it out tell your mom, your life will be so much better with that out of the way
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (2 February 2009):
I think she has picked up on something so she is just trying to make it clear that she will be proud of you either way, and she is open to these things and you don't have to hide it.
If she did find something in your room or overhear a conversation or found out in some way they she is hardly going to confront you over it. But she might drop the odd hint to let you know that she is there when you are ready to talk.
She's trying to be helpful. She sounds like a great mum. Sit her down and have a chat with her. She might have known for longer than you did, you may be surprised!
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, didda123 +, writes (2 February 2009):
 She could have been making a flip coment because she has picked up on the fact that you don't seem interested in girls but i would bet her intuition is giving her the facts and as a mother would she is trying to make it easier for you to talk.
Don't worry about things too much, maybe you should have a chat with your mum if the opportunity comes up i am sure she will understand how you are feeling.
I have two sons who are both straight but if wouldn't have made any difference to me had they been gay, i would have understood and felt protective towards them, they can talk to me about anything and i urge you to get this out in the open as soon as possible she will be a real support to you i'm sure.
Times have changed enormously years ago people spent all of there adult life hiding their sexuality but nowadays the stigma has been lifted somewhat and we are the way we are and and i think the majority of people accept that now.
Good luck hope you find the courage to have a chat with your mum x
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reader, suhani  +, writes (2 February 2009):
Well , I think that such a remark means that MAYBE yes she has figured it out.Also what matters is from which country yo are and what are your culture. I am an Indian and my mom can never pass such a remark on my brother , because homosexuality is still taboo here in India. But if your mom has said this then maybe she has got a hint . And your reaction will lead her to verify her assumption.
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