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writes:OK. Again similar to my previous questions... I will condense what could definitely be an essay worth sized question down to a simple straight-forward, all rounded question. OK. I've had many relationships in the past. Some I would say were long-term with my first one lasting a year...some I would deem to be almost a fling/series of casual dates. Its only recently, that i'm growing older...I seem to be getting younger? I seem to be losing touch of finding a genuine nice guy I could have a relationship with (because deep down I know thats what I want and will make me happy). Now, I seem to just want flings? I'll date a guy and the thought of sleeping with him on the first date..means nothing to me. Its as if...I'll rush it and then complain afterwards its been rushed even though im aware its partially due to my doings. I just can't seem to settle down anymore like i used to. SEX SEX SEX SEX on the brain. Wasn't I meant to be like this at 16 and not 19? I need tips on how to...well...calm down, take things easy, take things slowly ect ect. Maybe being a nympho was inevitable. Reply to this Question
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (9 January 2009):
 Well there is a difference between 16 and 19 however at 19 you are stil young. Its natrual at your age that you think a lot about sex and want sex. In my opinion there is nothing wrong with having sex as often as you like as long as it is safe sex. I think you might want to wait before taking things more slowly enjoy yourself you are only still a teenager, you can talk again like that when you are in your mid twenties. You might have a high sex drive also. It is ok to have sex with different parters as long as you don't commit yourself with one and you both take the nessesary precautions in protecting yourself.
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reader, UnfinishedSymphony +, writes (9 January 2009):
UnfinishedSymphony is verified as being by the original poster of the question Cheers guys.
You've all individually helped me to look at things in perspective.
Maybe, I am being too harsh on myself afterall.
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reader, simplybecause  +, writes (8 January 2009):
 NO!!!! you are 19, this is fine behaviour. This behaviour is okay until like 22ish. Nothing wrong with it. What I can say to stop you from having a lot of sexual partners, is find a fuck buddy... that way you can have your sex but not the confusion of a relationship. Dont be so hard on yourself.
Dont sleep with different people everyday. even week. But know that not too many guys find it very attractive if you sleep with them on the first date. They will still respect you. they just wont chances are want anything long term. keep that in mind.
hope i helped xo
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2009): No this does not make you slut. Unfortunetly when men do it, it seems to be ok. I'd say this is a phase. I went through this. I've had maybe 2 real relationships in my life one lasting 3 years the other lasting a year and well after each of them I just became this huge nympho just wanting sex and that was it! It was a phase for me. I wasn't meeting the right men, my relationshis failed, I gave up. Your young, have fun but be safe. When you find the right guy I'm sure you will settle down. Thats what happened for me.
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reader, planepocket  +, writes (8 January 2009):
It's not for anyone but you to decide what you are.Do you think you are a slut?If you do then change your ways and become the person you want to be.If you are happy the way your life is then stay on the same path.
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