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reader, Tsu +, writes (11 October 2008):
 lol you really want to know why? I myself am not a parent but I know exactly the feeling in which they feel.
It's simple really. They have raised you all your life, and every time when something bad happened, they were always there to pick you up.
Butttt, when a guy comes around, well believe this or not, you WILL get your heart broken one day, and it WILL devastate your world.
Bad thing is, the parents have very little control over this, and most don't realise it.
They want the guy to understand all of which you are, but they know at his age, chnces of that happening are 0 to none.
2nd reason, the biggest one. They KNOW you aren't smart enough to be dating at such a young age. You are young and well, stupid at your age lol.
Why? cuz you let your naive heart think everything is love. lol watch, you will prolly date a guy for 2 weeks, and think "oh he's the one I will marry!".
lol see if you were a mature and smart young lady, you would come the realisation of what you actually look for in men besides looks.
ALSO, the third and biggest one of them all !!!!! You think if you date a guy for a month, you'll be together forever, it's called puppy love.
But what you've got to understand, is that 98% of all men on earth, USE, as in decieve, manipulate, um...TRICK you into thinking they love you, and then just try to have sex with you.
lol trust me, even though I am a guy myself, I know damn well guys are just horny dogs looking to "get it on" with any woman, and will use any tactics to do so.
And at your age, oh trust me it's easy. -.- and NO I never did that, or ever will ^^ I became smart enough to stop myself. Something which is extremely unlikely for you, sad but true.
Hmm the 4th reason, DO YOU KNOW HOW MANY PREGNANT TEENAGERS THERE ARE NOWADAYS?!?!
Do you honestly think they planned for that? Answer: Hell no.
They were stupid, and young. Sadly, both of which you are right now. Only by being smart can you realise this.
PLEASE, please please please, realise all guys are horn dogs that will do, and say anything just to sleep with you.
They will buy you roses, they will write you poems, they will brag to their friends your their girlfriend.
By any means necessary they will try to decieve you. And THAT is why your parents do not want you to date at your age.
Cuz if you date, you will develop feelings for them, then you will constantly hang out, then those feelings will lead to kissing, then to making out, then to the different bases,
And then? that will lead to sex, which in turn will lead to you getting pregnant!
Then, once your pregnant, well you can just say goodbye to college. Cuz honestly, once you have a kid, you have to raise that kid. Which involves money, which means you have to get a full time job just to pay for diapers, baby food, baby clothes, baby monitors, milk, baby carriage, plan out their schooling etc etc etc etc etc!!!!!!
You think you could handle a full time job, going out with your friends, raising a kid that screams at 3 in the morning, breast feeding, keeping up money AND having to study for exams, write reports etc? ANSWER: HELL NO.
Lol and that is why your parents do not want you to date. Your too young and not smart enough to know how guys truly are. And yes, you WILL be tken advantage of, and yes, you will cry and you will get hurt.
That my dear, are the facts.
lol now, don't get me wrong, though 98% of all the guy population around the world are focused only on one thing, ( to get inside a girls pants by whatever means necessary )
there are a few, maybe 1 in every 1000 that are actually a gentleman, and trust me, they are never there during the teenage years.
During teenage yrs for guys, they get horny SO often, I'm talkin about every single day. Do you really think they can put aside their hormones? ANSWER: Hell no.
So yea, you wanted the truth, and there you have it. Lol I sincerely doubt your parents would ever say that so blunty to you, cuz well, we ALL have to go thru that puppy love stage, just....at your age you aren't smart enough to know when to stop.
lol ya get it now?
My Advice? 1st ya gotta know about me :P
well for me, I too was once a super horny trying to get inside girls pants guy =O, no doubt about that. And, well one day I was in my room, and me and this girl were having fun. She was givin me a lap dance and I was quite sure what was gunna take place sooner or later.
But, that's when my heart stepped in :). My heart didn't want my 1st time to be with the school slut. Lol and so, my heart kicked my ass SOOOO much. I felt regret, and fear. I knew if I went ahead with the actions in which were leadin to sex, I would be in agony forever.
lol I dunno why, but I stopped everything and made some lame excuse like, "Oh yes let's get it on, hey how long we got? Oh damn! my moms going to be home in like 5-10 mins! We can do this another day" lol, she bought it and I escaped :)
Well, of course the hornyness overcame my heart, idk my heart kinda just like faded away for a lil bit.
Anyways, one day i was in detention hall, and the teacher didn't show, so of course all the students left, cept for me and this girl I knew for like 2 yrs. Lol well the tv was on, and it was like a building seperate from the school.
Well least to say she said we should watch tv, and so she sat in my lap, I started to cop a feel in the chest area. lmao little did I know that one day, changed my ENTIRE life, no flippin joke!
Anyways, I started to feel around, and went inside the shirt, and this is when she playfully said "noo not right now" But....being the horny teenager I was, I had no self control, I could only focus on what was in front of me.
And so, I reached inside her shirt and felt around for like 5 seconds, and then pulled my hand out, and said "I think it's time we left" And omg she had this look on her face...
Later that night at wednesday church she had drove up there, and she was sulking with the door open in the parking lot. I noticed and I went over, and just so happened when I did a big tear just came out and went right down to her cheek.
My whole body froze and goosebumps overcame my body. I knew damn well what that tear was all about. Once again, a guy used her....I didn't have feelings for her, I just wanted to for sex...and the sadness on her face I will NEVER forget. I made a silent promise that night.
It was then I realised, omfg, how the HELL could I do such a thing?! I used a friend I knew for a long time, I betrayed her trust, I did to her what every guy does to girls. And the pain in which she endured...was a pain I will NEVER again cause...
I mean I literally was f*kin pissed at myself, I was FURIOUS! I could not believe what i had done. lol don't worry my heart gave me the ass kicking I needed.
Anyways since that day, my heart has been in control, and I'm happy for that. lol there's more to the story but yea, this is gone on for far too long.
Lol anyways, sorry for it being so long. Oh! my advice! derr
Let's see, my advice. Well for me, when i have my daughter I will enlighten her upon the truth, and so long as she knows it, she can date at the age of 16.
So, if I were you, I would take those facts I mentioned earlier, and take them to heart. Once you have, listen to your heart about what you look for ina guy.
THEN, tell your parents the facts in which they would never announce aloud. Tell them about how you know the number 1 thing guys have on their mind.
Then tell them that you know the facts, and are mature enough to not let it get that far. TRUST me, once they see the maturity in which you have gained, they will place trust into you.
Then you'll be able to date allll you want lol. Don't believe me? Try it out! of course they will still be weary, but it will make them feel sooooooo much more at ease.
So please, become an intelligent person! Not every guy will have their heart come out to kick their ass before they let it get to far.
Sad thing is, most guys would rather use a girl, than respect her virginty. U think im kidding?! no.
Pllllllllllllllllleeeeeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaasssseeee take this advice. I'm sick and tried of these stupid teenagers nowdays getting pregnant at like 17 and 18!
Seriosuly my cousin was pregnant at 17, friend at 17, ANOTHER friend at 18, I would count about 6 total. All under the age of 19. Oh and are they in college? of course to the hell no.
I just don't want it to happen to you....
~ Tsunami
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2008): Because they are parents and are always gonna struggle to see you as anything other then the baby the used to change the nappies of.It's up to the teenager to defy them in this manner and tell them to shove it. It is the normal way.Any normal teenager gets along with their parents only well enough to not leave.But most will go out with whoever they want, whenever they want. If the parent forbids them, the teenager will simply become sneakier and figure out how NOT to get caught.This stage does not last forever. They eventually grow up.Oh and FADE878, your Dad is just being over-protective of his little girl.Not all bpys just want to get into your pants. Use your brain. Just because as teenagers our thoughts tend to fall towards sex, it doesn't mean we will literally try to get it with anyone we can and in any way we can.We take our virginity's very seriously. We just prefer to send it on it;s wa sooner rather then later. Doesn't mean we give it to just any old hag. We have our standards too.Flynn 24
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (10 October 2008):
 I think 16 years is a reasonable age to begin dating however it is never easy watching your child go out the door with some young kid who couldn't possible understand what a precious treasure he is escorting. Parents are people too, and this is one of the hardest things to face, we want to protect our child at all costs but we do understand that dating is part of growing up. Until you become a parent yourself you won't really be able to understand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2008): maybe because they know that at this age hormones are going crazy and boys mainly have one think in their mind...
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reader, shiraz  +, writes (10 October 2008):
hiyah i think its just because you are there daughter ya know and its like leeting go and you finding your own way it seems stupid the way they go about it but honestly ive learnt over all there protective side they actually want the best for you and sometimes ONLY sometimes there actually right so on some occastions listen to what they got. Its a sign of independance to your not there little girl any more and i think it hurts theyve bought you up for so long the way they want you to be when you get to your own choice it changes as they dont always agree
god it can get tough - gtta be yuu some day x :)
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii +, writes (10 October 2008):
 because they are scared you are going to get hurt/ don't want you to grow up. think those are two of the main reasons
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