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writes: Hello,Ok this does sound stupid but it really makes me mad right.I am 16 male live in England. My next door neighbour is 30yr old women has a middle sister of I think 27 and a younger sister of 24.Now!!!I really fancy the younger one 24 years old.We always talk across the garden and for some reason she always stops what she is doing.We really get a long and at a partay round there a few nights ago I really sarted to get talking to her right.Now she comes out after I said I saw your boyfriend over a few months back and comes blatantly out with "I don't have a boyfriend".Right!!Now I know she doesn't mean anything by this. Why the hell would she fancy a 16 year old kid?Now if I wait until I am 18 should I have a go?I want to but need some help.Cheersanon
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2005): Sorry i didn't make this clear enough she lives on the otherside of the uk and comes to stay every now and again.
And yes we do have the same intrested we do talk you know lol.
No i am gonna wait till i am 18 and see.
But really you know what i will probably get bored by then so.
But she hasn't come on to me really at all just that phrase i just wanted to know if i should wait until i am 18
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2005): Not saying this is your neighbo-- but you must be careful here-because you are 'assuming' she fancies you? She has never told you she fancies you, has she. If not, then you may be a bit blinded to her game because you have a big crush on her. It really sounds like she could be just amusing herself with you until she gets a bf she really likes. Some women sense a young teen guy, wants to date them and they play the poor kid along. They enjoy the attention but they grow bored with it quickly. In America, we call these women "cockteases". I've seen it happen a dozen times and it's heartbreaking for the poor, young man-he really does take it seriously. I would play it safe and just get to know her as a friend and neighbor..nothing more. Try dating girls your own age-that makes for a nicer relationship that's more equally balanced, more fair and you stand a chance of being respected and sincerely loved by someone your own age. Have fun and please proceed with caution-don't get used, dear. Take care and good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2005): It's not only the age difference even though at 16 you can't possibly have the same interests as her and you don't have the same freedom. The same goes for 18 because you may be considered an adult but you are still not 21 which is technically the age you are considered an adult. Anyway when you're 18 she's going to be 26 and she will probably not have the same interests, she may want to settle down and have a family which at 18 you most probably wont be ready for. Not to mention she could have a boyfriend or a fiance. My advice to you is to wait until you are actually 18 and see what you're feelings are for her and if things are good with the both of you and you have things in common then take a shot at it.
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reader, Topps +, writes (31 October 2005):
I'm in the Uk too..hiya. I think you should wait till 18, alot can happen in between. Enjoy your crush they are great, but a difference of 8 years is not so much if you are say..31 and 39 but alot different in the ages you are talking about. She is being nice to you, be friends with her but unfortuantley it is possible she thinks of you as the nice kid next door. wait & see you sound very sensible. good luck
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reader, Babi +, writes (31 October 2005):
Its not a case of 'have a go', if you like her and want to wait then fine.
Let her know how you feel when you are ready and see where things go. Men and women can have purely plutonic relationships, she may just like you company, she may fancy you..............
Theres only one way to find out though!
And don't be to hard on your self if it doesn't work out the way you want it to!
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2005): Why on earth are you trying to chase an older women anyway,i know you youngsters are very sexual these days but for god sake theres more to life than stressing over something like this , if you want to see what she thinks ask her straight - don't beat around the bush, if she's interested then fair enough otherwise go for girls your own age, least she'll be on your level(sorry thats sound sreally patronising) but truthfully don't stress over stupid things.If it's meant to be it will be.
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