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writes:HiMy bf be cheated on me and when i told him i am done with him, he claims every man will cheat if they are presented with an opportunity. I can swear not all women will cheat even if they find that opportunity. Does some guys always go after beauty and sex even when have the girl whom loves them. It really makes me sick to think that i loved him and never saw that he would always grasp the cheating opportunity with both hands. I lost faith in men. Will i ever find love again. Will at least few men prefer heartfelt love from a normal girl
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2011): Your boyfriend is a douche and doesnt represent me or any other man with a brain in his head. Guys make separate decisions, thats up to them. But mostly there are guys who are responsible and will treat their partners with respect and honesty. Stick in there, the right guy will come along. It's good you dumped that loser!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHiThanks for your responses. It helped me a lot. I dumped him today for well and good. Hope i wont make the mistake of asking him to come back to me, crossing my fingers.
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reader, honestman  +, writes (1 April 2011):
"I lost faith in men."Please, get this idea out of your head. NOT all men are created equal. There are good guys out there, running like elusive shadows. You need to find them!"Will i ever find love again."Yes, you will surely find love again. Trust me in this one. There are lots of great guys out there."Will at least few men prefer heartfelt love from a normal girl" Sure! There some of us who will kill for a normal loving girl. Really. At least for me, a loving woman is a big turn on. Sometimes those pretty and sexy girls on the outside are very spoiled and shallow on the inside. There some of us who love smart, kind, and honest woman."he claims every man will cheat if they are presented with an opportunity".Listen, I am in a long distance relationship. I haven't seen her in 6 months... and I will probably not see her in a long while... I have HUGE Urges for being with her, cuddle her, hug her, kiss her, make love to her. But right now it is not possible for us. I have been presented with many opportunities for cheating. Yesterday some very young girls stood right next to me on the bus and started singing me a love song while on the bus [I just ignored them, and stood very serious]. A week ago a very young girl I barely now sat on my lap while on the bus... I didn't allowed her to stay very long [although I'm internally CRAVING for a woman's touch]. I can keep going on and on. I know any man would have taken advantage of these opportunities, but I'm not any other man. I love my girlfriend, and I am loyal to her, even if this distance is killing every single part of me.There are good men out there, you just need to find carefully. If my girlfriend got a good men as a boyfriend, I really think you can find one too !
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2011): Being "wired" by nature doesn't mean that we "have to do it".Just like being wired by nature to kill off others, etc.We choose, and our choices are often influenced by things that we don't understand.Understanding is the key.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2011): I love all the denials!Men are wired by nature to put it about and there is no denying nature.....
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reader, person12345 +, writes (1 April 2011):
 What your bf says is bs. He's just trying to excuse his own behavior. The majority of guys won't cheat even when presented with the opportunity. Men and women really aren't that different when it comes to cheating, men cheat slightly more often but the numbers are getting almost 50/50. There are plenty of nice guys out there who won't cheat, most of them actually. Your boyfriend was just a jerk.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (1 April 2011):
What dirtball says. What your boyfriend is really saying, is HE will cheat given the opportunity. There are plenty of guys who won't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2011): Not all men, or women, cheat.Many people cheat, and don't understand why they cheat."beauty and sex" Often have little to do with it, it more often has to do with self esteem and lack thereof."makes me sick to think that i loved him and never saw" which is how everyone who is cheated on, who truly loves the other person, feels."I lost faith in men." Regain your faith, understand yourself, and it will help you. Lose only your faith in him as and individual. Remember, men and women are "people" and in all of us there exists both bad and good impulses."Will i ever find love again." Yes, if you stay true to yourself."Will at least few men prefer heartfelt love from a normal girl" Oh, yes, there are more of them than you realize, and often they get cheated on by their wives/gf's.My brother cheated on his wife (they had two kids), I couldn't understand why he did it, although the other woman was at least reasonably attractive, she wasn't any more attractive than his wife, and she was a serial home wrecker, he went on to marry her and have two kids with her.After a decade of things, and some things coming to light, I realize my brother never trusted his wife, and still doesn't trust the current wife, and probably never did, probably never will, and I finally know why. When he was a teenager, he had sex with a married woman, who was the mother of my sister's best friend, who was cheating on her husband. Yeah, he probably thought he was the cat's meow when this was going on, but then he probably grew older thinking "every woman cheats on their husband with younger guys", so he probably can't conceive of someone being honest and faithful in marriage unless he gets some serious counseling.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (1 April 2011):
 Will some guys always cheat when given the chance? Yup. Some men are dogs, and they give the rest of us a bad rap.Not all men will cheat though. Many will stay true to their partner because they realize the importance of everything they offer.Will you ever find love again? You'll have the chance, but it will depend on you and your mindset. You will have to open yourself up and trust in order to find love. That can be difficult, especially after an experience like this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2011): That's bull. My boyfriend would never cheat on me. And I am 100% sure of that. He loves me and if this guy truly loved and respected you he wouldn't cheat on you. Yes you can find love. There is a man out there that will love you and not disrespect you like that.
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