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writes:I’d like to first thank Tennisstar88 for giving me the idea to write this article. Even though this is a sensitive topic to most men, my hope is someone will benefit from reading it. Enjoy!-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------There are many guys who suffer from what I call “inadequate-size syndrome”. This is the type of mentality many guys have- which causes them to be discouraged, have low-self-esteem, and may give bad performances because of it when they’re in the bedroom. So what is the average size for men? Well studies show that somewhere between the ranges of 5-6 inches is known as average. But is it a decent size for women? Well that’s debatable. But here’s what you can do if you’re suffering from this issue….1. Realize it’s more so about performance… than size. I’ve heard numerous times from people who gave the quote “it’s not about the size of the boat; it’s the motion in the ocean”. And to some degree that’s actually true. There have been some women that I’ve spoken to about this topic, and they said that they would be satisfied with an average-sized guy, if he knew how to really work with what he had. And being bigger doesn’t really mean much if a guy doesn’t know how to use it properly. So focus more on HOW you perform. 2. Do manual stretches/exercises. There are many articles/videos on the net on how to safely and naturally grow your penis in length and girth without taking pills. And I know firsthand the effectiveness of doing these exercises. But every guy is different, so your body may react differently (in terms of gaining time) to the stretches than the next person. But if done correctly and consistently, you may potentially be able to gain. 3. Focus more on pleasing your partner. Communicate with her in bed, find out what she likes, what turns her on, and implement more foreplay into your sex life. If you do these things, you may end up with a more satisfied partner. So don’t let your average (or below average) penis size continue to get you down. There are things that you can do! And remember to think big, great, and progressive. If you change your mentality, even slightly to thinking more positive- and focus more on creating a more intimate, loving experience in the bedroom, you’ll get much better results…and a happier partner.
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (12 October 2011):
Daniel the love doctor is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hi KittieS! Thank you for your support. :^) It's always refreshing to hear positive words.
And I appreciate you sharing your two cents also. You've made some valid points.
Best!
P.S.
You should definitely start writing more on the emotions women feel. I think a lot of guys would love to hear what you have to say.
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reader, KittieS  +, writes (11 October 2011):
 Firstly I like your articles and it makes me feel I should write more on the emotions that women actually feel! I also like the fact you comment on your posts I hope people who write in check up on them!Size doesn't really matter too most women, it's more about an emotional connection when we are with someone we care about. What's so more important is the build up, the and yes its very cheesy but we like to know our bodies look good, feel good and that we are rocking your world!Men and women really aren't that different we all want to know "were good in bed"We want to feel like goddesses that your not thinking about the coffee shop girl... although we know sometimes you are, like sometimes were thinking of the diet coke man - shock horror girls fantasie too!At the end of the day, a girl wants to feel like YOUR girl and different positions sexually can make the smallest of men feel amazing! And Renember the first few inches are the most important and a clitoris has over 8,000 nerve endings and is far more sensitive than a penis.We love your "members" but we love your hands, arms, tounges just as much ;)So size really doesn't matter
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (9 October 2011):
Daniel the love doctor is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Kinkykel for your comments. I appreciate your input in this discussion. :^)
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reader, kinkykel +, writes (8 October 2011):
 It's not the penis that makes the man it's the man that makes himself. The penis is added BONUS. And some may not agree but size isn't every thing but wow if you know what you're doing in the bedroom, talking to your partner is a must telling what each other likes. i've had the " over average man" it was horrible he thought just because it was bigger then most that's all he needed he was all about his self so i had to tell him that he D*** is all he had and one day he would grow into it. I know it's an old saying but i do agree it is how you use it not what you have. If you feel like you don't have enough in that area you can always make up always and woman will appriciate a man that pays attention to her body and her needs, in return you are appricated NO MATTER WHAT. Learn to use what you have, & use what you learned
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (4 October 2011):
Daniel the love doctor is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you niiik for posting! :^) I appreciate your positive comments. And I'm sure the women who commented on this topic also- does as well.
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reader, niiik  +, writes (4 October 2011):
great view doc. i am a male n i dont know what women think about penises....its size bla bla bla......... ive seen in males n felt pesonally how we feel about our penises......it really worries that how our partner will feel about it but reading these all n specially all those ladies talking i feel great n relieved n happy with what i have......so thanx to u doc. specially and also ta all the the ladies who have given their view on it
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (3 October 2011):
Daniel the love doctor is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat's a great way to view things- and you provided some very good points. Thanks for your comments Chigirl. :^)
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (3 October 2011):
 Yes, naturally any statistic isn't 100% accurate, as they don't ask entire populations. However my point is that it is more beneficiary to men who are insecure about their penises to know that their penis is normal, instead of thinking their penis is small if it is 4 inches or 4 and 1/2. Just the same it is not beneficiary for men with 6 inch penises to think they're big, when they are normal as well. Because it gives the wrong view. Many men think they are small when they are 5 inches, and have this need to compare and be BIGGER than others. Learning that they are normal, and that 4 inches is not below average, is helpful. It's not like all other men walk around with 8 inch penises... that's just the point I want to make. And that when we say average we do mean the smaller cluster of average as well. It is great for average men to know they are average, instead of thinking they are small.
Women like average penises. And average varies. That's my point. Men shouldn't try to compare themselves to some set "standard" of how big a "normal" penis is, when they are perfectly normal as they are.
And in my fair opinion: Penis enlargements are hoaxes as well. Just like breast enlargements. Or diet pills. If you want to feel good about yourself, and what God has given you (or what nature has given you for the non-religious of us) then you need to not think of yourself as some freak, and realize that you are just like everyone else, perfectly capable with what you've got.
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (3 October 2011):
Daniel the love doctor is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat's an interesting point Chigirl. The studies that I've come across are more U.S./Canada based- but it's no surprise to see things a bit different in other parts of the world.In my opinion there's no real way that you could tell what is considered average- as everyone who volunteered to be apart of the study are no where near 1% of the world's population in regards to men. What they typically do is examine their numbers based on the participants, and come up with an average/median.But I think what many men should focus on is working with what they have- and having a better intimate experience. Now, if they feel that they need to enhance a little bit (as you probably can tell I believe doing it the all-natural, manual way), there's nothing wrong with that also. I know it's nothing compared to say, getting plastic surgery/botox, for example, but what they all have in common is they're confidence builders/boosters. And if that's going to make the guy (or both people who are intimate) happier, then by all means I say go for it. But be sure to really study what you're doing...and do it safely.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (3 October 2011):
I just want to add that according to the studies I've come across, and sexual education in Norway, the average is not 5-6 inches. That number is the median of the average. The average size when erect is actually between 3.9 and 7.9 inches. Most men, according to what I have read and been taught, are at either end of this scale, and a few in the dead middle. Which means there are clusters at the lower end and clusters at the higher end. Men who are 4 inches are not below average. They are average. Same with men who are 7 inches, they are also average, not above. I think that is worth saying. The average is not an exact inch.
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (3 October 2011):
Daniel the love doctor is verified as being by the original poster of the questionInteresting comment anonymous reader. Thank you for posting. :^)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2011): bigger is lesser and lesser is better you must be thinking what? i'm telling you the truth. why! you ask? i will tell you a man with a smaller penis will love his partner more and the partner in my eyes shall love a smaller penis easier to handle easier to please.a man with a huge penis means hes gonna have more entercounters because he wants to show the world what he has in his pants than what he can do with it. its not about the size its about the time you spend together remembering that there are many things you can do wetha it is small or big doesn't make you useless or great just means that you have to do some research on how to please your partna. sex is a great thing and it shouldn't be rushed or bored or taken advantage of.
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (2 October 2011):
Daniel the love doctor is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat's a very interesting quote Eddie...and thanks for commenting. :^)And yes Tennisstar I'm working on posting more of the articles (in addition to this one), that we've talked about. But I'm sure you'll see in the articles section that there are more relationship articles that I've posted now. ;^)But anyway, let me comment on your comments...1. I agree. Which is why I wanted to put the focus more on performance than actual size. 2. It does go beyond pills, pumps(which is more of a temporary gain), and surgery. I've actually always been happy with my size, but tried it to experiment- and notice some gains myself. These gains basically happens because your stretching tissue when doing lengthening exercises (and you're rebuilding when rested), and forcing more blood into the penis when doing girth exercises.3. Pleasing your partner orally can also have it's benefits. I agree with your comment on this. And I don't know too many women that would disagree. :^)But thanks for the positive comments.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (2 October 2011):
 Aww, thanks for the acknowledgment! I look forward to the articles we discussed.
1. MANY women are satisfied with an average penis. Even a little below average!! We do not sit there and eyeball your penis to come up with a guesstimated measurement! We're more concerned about getting hot and heavy.
Bigger doesn't mean better. In fact, bigger hurts the next 2 days.
2. Interesting..I'd like to see the statistics on this. I thought all that was available were penis pumps(which can do damage), pills/supplements, and lengthening surgery (but does nothing for girth).
3. If you do find yourself below average, then I highly recommend mastering the oral arts. My magic number isn't anything to be proud of, but I have come across very FEW men who really know what they're doing south.
Great article, it's refreshing for a man to LISTEN what exactly women are saying when it comes to size.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (2 October 2011):
 I once read the following.....if men knew how infrequently women thought about their partners penis size they would be disappointed.
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (1 October 2011):
Daniel the love doctor is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your comment anonymous reader. Actually there have been proven cases shown of people who did gain doing PE (penis exercises). In fact there are numerous forums online which show real people displaying real pictures.
Now, just like any exercise, it takes time, effort, and consistency to see results. But it is a great natural way of increasing penis length and girth- both flaccid and erect.
And also, doing PE has many benefits especially when combined with doing kegels. As this can increase stamina, ejaculatory strength, and overall penile health.
If you'd like me to provide more info on this, just send me a direct message.
Best! :^)
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (30 September 2011):
Daniel the love doctor is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for reading Cathy! :^)
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