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writes:My gf and i broke up about 3 months ago.We dated for 3 years.She also has a 3 and a half year daughter,which i took as my own,because the childs father wanted nothing to do with them,he has never seen the child.She broke up with me to be with the father of the child after 4 years,she hasnt seen him,all because he agreed to do a paternity test,or so she says.A day after we break up,she sleeps with him.A week after that he disappears,up until now,she hasnt been able to get into contact with him.No test has ever been done.What i wanna know is,does she miss me?,or regret what she did?,or sad that she has lost me? Because some of her facebook status' reads "know that feeling when you really miss someone" and "its hard to tell your mind to stop loving someone,when your heart still does". Wotsup with these status messages of hers?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (4 October 2011):
 well of course her daughter is asking to see you... to her daughter you are daddy...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2011): I am the OP of this story.Just for the record,they never officialy dated,it was just a 'fling',nobody knows who he is,not even her parents.Ive never met him,but ive seen a picture of him. I have no desire to get back with her,although i would be lying if i said i didnt still have a little feelings for her,i do have,but not enough to make me wana be with her again. She has emailed twice asking me to come around because her daughter is asking to see me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2011): maybe those facebook statuses she's writing are referring to him..?I think she doesn't love you. If she did she wouldn't have left you so suddenly, after 3 years and all you done for her and her kid, to be with someone who was never there for her. she clearly didn't love you, and that means that she doesn't miss you. maybe she regrets that she's now all alone since he's left her again, that's all.I think she was always chasing after him and was only with you for 3 years cos she couldnt' have him, cos he abandoned her. She was using you for her own comfort and convenience because she couldn't get him to be with her...that is until the time came when it became possible to be with him then she left you. and now that he's abandoned her yet again, she's probably too busy being heartbroken over him to be thinking much about you.this really hurts because not only did she leave you but you've also lost the relationship with a child you had come to see as your own. this is not fair for you. but while it's very sad and unfaor that her child has lost the only real father she ever knew (i.e. you), people do have the right to break up with their partner if they don't want to be in a committed romantic relationship with that person anymore so your gf does have the right to break up with you no matter how much it hurts you and her kid, simply for the fact that she doesn't want you anymore as a romantic relationship partner.take this as a sign that your relationship was never a good one - for you - if your gf was capable of walking out on you just like that. clearly she was using you this whole time so it's better that this not go on any further. if her ex hadn't showed up when he did, you'd simply still have your head stuck in the sand right now about her true nature.
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reader, niiik  +, writes (4 October 2011):
i dont think she either misses you nor regrets right now....... but in the long run she'll realise that what you did for her and her daughter, all those sacrifices and the main thing accepting someone elses childAnd when the guy kicks her ass again then finally she is going to regret and miss you a lot......Such girls are too much, they dont realise that its hard to find a guy like that..........so,its going to be hard but you need forget her and move on starting a new life and finding someone else who is worthy for your love
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 October 2011):
There is really no way we can know what she is thinking or feeling...
The truth is that if a person is truly committed to someone it's rare that an ex returning will make them give up the current relationship to TRY to get back with the ex....
as 19reginna84 said.. tread carefully.. guard your heart.
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reader, golddigger99 +, writes (3 October 2011):
 I agree completely with 19reginna84. Unfortunately a mother will always have feelings for the father of their children. Whether they be purely platonic or something more, her child's father will always be a present thought in her mind. I too am very sorry that this happened to you, but although my heart tells me you should run the opposite way, you clearly miss her, otherwise you wouldn't be asking about what her facebook status means. Good luck with whatever happens here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2011): This could go two ways. Either she regrets what she did and is missing you, or all this time she has missed him, and now is missing him again because yet again he played her for the fool. It is really hard to know which one is how she really feels.
I would say be cautious here. I fear that she was never over her ex if she's willing to give up a three year relationship at the first sign of him. It doesn't seem like a very nice thing to do. Plus it is not very nice of her to do that to her daughter, who has known you as a father this whole time. Her actions are very irrational and unwise, I think. This other guy obviously is not a good or trustworthy person.
I'm very sorry this has happened to you. Even if she does miss you, I think you should be very careful with her or you may end up having this problem every time this guy comes around.
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