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writes:im 15 and i have not had any interact with a boy. ive never been kissed, or had a boyfriend or had sex. i get attention quite a bit from older men. but im worried that if i havent manged to do anything so far it will neverhappen. like i keep thinking its ok your only 15 but happens when im 20 and nothings changed. basically is this normal? should i just go for it with someone random? i kinda worried.
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reader, GhostChild  +, writes (4 October 2011):
 You're only 15. I know that might feel old and like the clock is ticking away, but you have so much time ahead of you.
I didn't get my first kiss until I was 18, and I didn't lose my virginity until I was 20. It really isn't a big deal. These things are different for everyone. And it's better for it to happen when you're older and more mature and able to handle things like this.
I remember being your age and worrying because I hadn't kissed anyone or done anything with a girl, but trust me, there's a lot more to life than relationships and kissing.
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reader, niiik  +, writes (4 October 2011):
hey ur just 15.....im 17 and i too havn't kissed or had sex or been in relationship wit a girl....i wonder if ive ever touched a stranger or a female classmate.So,i think u still have time dont worry about it u will get someone some day..........but in my opinion dont just go crazy after such things i say save urself n ur virginity for someone who will be the love of ur life n will always be there for u .....rather than loosing urself for a guy who just wants to play with u
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (3 October 2011):
 I didn't have my first kiss until i was about 15, and lost my virginity when i was 17 to a very special persn who i had in my life at that time.
Your first times should be very special and they should make you smile when you think about them, if you go with a random, do you really think that they're gonna make it memorable for you? No. They're going to see a girl, willing to put out for the first guy she sees. This is going to give you the worst reputation ever, do you want that???
As other posters have said, you're only 15, still young and things will happen when they happen, but you need to be sure you feel comfortable when these things do happen!!!
Take care and look after yourself :)
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reader, daarling. +, writes (3 October 2011):
Honestly honey you are absolutely fine. I was so worried when i was your age to. I had not done anything, ever had a boyfriend or got much attention. Dont rush things, take things slow and i guarantee you something will happen. I had my time and i now have the most lovely boyfriend and i know youll find yours too. :)
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reader, Candid Cally  +, writes (3 October 2011):
Don't rush things. Firsts happen when they happen. If you would like to speed things up a little, start by letting someone know you are interested in them. Write a note. Have a mutual friend approach him. Even just tell the school gossip about someone you are crushing on.
Sometimes guys get this silly thought in their heads that a girl is unapproachable because she is too smart, too attractive, too shy, or because they simply think you are too good to say yes to them. You have to let one you like know you are available, cool, and fun and things will progress from there. If the first guy isn't interested, then ask another.
Any older men who are 'interested' in you are NOT concerned with your best interests.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2011): You are completely normal. 15 is very young and not everyone gets their first kiss, date, or anything like that until they are older. I'm sure that you will have all of these things in time. There is a famous song that says "You can't hurry love," and it is best to go with that advice. Hurrying love only leads to trouble. Just relax and have fun with your friends! When it is time for your first boyfriend it will happen.
As for older men, be very cautious of them. It is not a good idea to get involved in a relationship that could be dangerous for you.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (3 October 2011):
 Yes, things will happen. Don't worry about it! Things WILL, without doubt, happen. The only way you could prevent it from happening is by never talking to a male ever again in your life.
Guys like girls. Guys have a harder time getting a girl than a girl has getting a guy, in general. Often because guys need to do all the work, as women are playing the game of needing to be courted.
If you want to speed things along you need to practice flirting. It'll be embarrassing at first, but simple flirting will take you a long way. Such as smiling, and looking into their eyes when you talk to them, and tell a joke and make them laugh.
Go for a guy you actually like, because really... it's not at all impossible to find a guy who you actually like, as opposed to taking the first and best you come across. And a guy you like is more worth your time and effort.
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reader, golddigger99 +, writes (3 October 2011):
 You are too young to be worried about sex and boys. At 15, a female is just beginning to mature. You have plenty of time in the world to worry about these things. Do not ever think that you have to settle with someone. When you are ready to have interaction of any kind with a male, make sure he is someone whom you are very fond of and or someone whom you love. The word 'settle' should never enter the equation. Good luck!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 October 2011):
 15 is young... give it time... you may meet someone next week... do not do anything with some random person just to get it done.... not a good idea.
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